Why Do Twentysomethings Always Feel So Old?

it’s because 30 is the next step… 

it’s because 30 is the next step… 

…Really? At the age of twenty-one, turning thirty is pretty much the last thing on my mind, but I can still relate to the feeling-ancient-prematurely-ness of “twentysomethings”.

The real question is why are twentysomethings so narcissistic.

The real question is why are twentysomethings so narcissistic.

this is great Ryan. I wish we all could just take time to enjoy instead of being stressed about career/money/love/the future.

this is great Ryan. I wish we all could just take time to enjoy instead of being stressed about career/money/love/the future.

Hey Ryan – I read TC obsessively, so I just wanted to let you guys know that while this new brickwall background looks good, it makes reading harder. I really did like your previous cleancut white background theme. Maybe you guys will consider going back to that? I am not sure if this is a permanent change…
Thanks!

This is the story of my life. I’ll be 23 at the end of the month and I often struggle with “I should go out, I’m only 22….but I can’t because I have a job and I have to work in the morning, plus I’m tired so I’ll watch Jeopardy and go to bed…except I’m 22, how lame.” Sigh.

That’s true. I honestly feel like I went through a midlife crisis during my 20′s. It’s like you’re expected to become a grown-up over night. There is all that talk about being a teenager, but no one prepares you for your twenties. At 25 I felt so old, like my life was over. Then I turned 30 and as if I rebooted. Now, at 35, I feel younger than I felt then, but I also see how fragile those years were. Btw. felt the same as you at 17 and 19. I wish you a happy birthday and I hope you enjoy it!

Or it could be because most of us are saddled with student loan debt and no longer have time to have fun for fear of default and financial ruin.

getting older is fun, though.

your interests change completely from when you’re younger.  eventually you like reading, not excessively partying, eating right, exercising regularly, taking on silly “projects”, and most importantly, just relaxing on a porch somewhere with a six pack.

sometimes just avoiding the party riffraff is nice, though.

you definitely look lame, and your friends will probably be disappointed that you didn’t come out, but ultimately it was for the better good of your existence as a human life form.

Yes but 21 is different from 25.  21 comes with all of its own milestones…

When I turned 25, I fell into the trap of “oh I’m so old and if I don’t meet a person to marry soon, I will be barren by the time I want kids” and “everyone else my age has 3 kids already and I don’t even have a boyfriend!”  (damn facebook.)  So what did I do?  I married the first guy who paid any attention to me, was miserable and now am turning 31 next week and right back in the same spot.  (Except that now I’m not sure that I even WANT kids.)  Enjoy 25 (and 26, 27, 28, and 29), it’s NOT as old as you think!!!

I struggled with this in my 20′s too. Society sends mixed messages to 20 somethings. On the one hand, no one takes you seriously if you’re under 30, chalking up everything you say as coming without the life experience to back it up.  So they treat you like you’re still a 17 year old kid who should get permission from mom and dad to be participating in that conversation. 

But, at the same time they expect you to hold down a full time job, be the most energetic person on the staff and have the most amazing ideas because your mind is untainted by years of back breaking corporate hooey. 

Now that I’m in my 30s it’s much the same way – I can’t believe how “old” I feel on a Friday night. I am ready for PJ’s and bedtime by 10pm! Of course, sharing this with my colleagues who are in their 50s results in same responses I got from my 30-something colleagues when I was in my 20′s. “oh you’re just a baby!” 

The hardest part of aging for me is remember that when I was 10 or 15 years younger, I thought people at my current age were “so old.”  Back then, I also thought having my own car was the pinnacle of success. 

Age is relative. The definition of “old” is always just a year away from where you are now. The definition of “young” is the falsely remembered ability to do things you can’t/don’t want to do any more. 

I get tired by 10pm too. And I’m 22! 

I don’t agree. I just turned 25 and I feel young as hell. Can’t do drugs at 25? Why, because you’re too old? Well, I think it’s far more reasonable (romantic?) to light up a J at 35 than at 15. It just seems to be more… thought-through? But then again, I’ve always felt young. When I was 17, it was for your reasons. When I was 18, I was the youngest of all the (legal) smokers ; 21, the youngest of all the (legal) drinkers. 25? I’m the youngest of all the professionals. When I’m 35 or 40, I’ll be the youngest of all the geezers; 65, the youngest of all the seniors. Maybe it’s a state of mind – I like youth because I still feel like I have a lot to learn, still feel okay about fucking up – and these things I like. If making mistakes, becoming better, knowing about what I am ignorant and trying to change that, are the hallmarks of youth, then I think I’ll be young forever.

This is phenomenal!!! I feel that all the time!! Everyones imposing deadlines and saying you’re not successful if you do this, this or this.. and everyones always got something to say about your supposed “failures”. Oh well. I’ll do life on my time.

When I turned 25 I had a weekend-long crisis that concluded with me realizing that by NY standards I am still a baby. If I still lived in LA I bet it would’ve been way, way worse. 

25 is not old, the end. when i’m 30, i’m still going to do the same things as in my 20′s even if i’m a “grown up”. some people are so easily intimidated by age and i have no idea why.

I feel old sometimes too. My roommate is 19 and makes me feel like a grandma. It is just that as soon as you really stop having to think about getting IDed for things and so much of the formerly adult world becomes open to you that you become truly disillusioned with the idea of being an adult because all of the things that seemed so awesome so clearly aren’t. I have drunk far less since I turned 21, I don’t stay out late often, I quit smoking when I was 19, I stress about my office job, I update my resume and worry that my blazer looks rumpled because I left it in a ball on the couch all night. Being a grownup sucks. That is what makes us feel old. It is just that we are older than we want to be. We miss that brief period where you can do the things you want to do but don’t have stupid grownup responsibilities.

Please get over yourself. I’m 24 and feel young and vibrant every day!

I’m about to turn 24, I don’t feel old. Sometimes I feel old, for example I am now too old for college house parties. But then I remind myself I’m in my 20s and it’s okay again. I moved out when I was 18 and pay my bills and work. I’ve got loans to pay back, but who doesn’t? Many of my friends feel old and I think they are silly.  Sometimes being around them makes me feel like I should feel like I am old. Maybe I don’t party as hard as I did a couple years back but there’s more to life and youth than going out.

Put some don’t worry about it sauce on it.

I’m 23 and I love my age!! I’m young enough to do whatever the fuck I want, go wherever I want, no strings attached, no one else to consider in the equation. No grimaces made when I tell people I’m single, I don’t feel the pressure of my college LTR (though I do kinda miss being loved). I’m young enough to not have it all figured out yet, to avoid judgment when I tell people I live in Africa and don’t really like my job or think its leading me anywhere significant. But, I’m old enough to be independent, support myself, finance my whims and desires, pay off my student loans, manage serious and not so serious relationships without too much emotional damage…. life is good!

By 25, though, the existential crisis might be approaching… I better have my future husband and successful career lined up!

Of course you do. You’re only 25.

that awkward moment when my typo ruins the joke …

I waited in absolute terror the night before my twentieth birthday, absolutely convinced that I would turn into a pumpkin at midnight.  I didn’t.  But I did find myself in a cab driven by an 85 year old woman moving at less than 5 mph just after the clock struck.  I’m pretty sure that was the slow carriage back to the rest of my life.

You absolutely hit the nail on the head about turning 19.  I thought I was ANCIENT.  Now, my 22-year-old self scoffs at how tiny, and immature I was.

22 was the first year that actually felt like a step out of youth for me.  Especially because at the time, I was out of town, working on a production of my first non-college produced show.  But if you had asked me at age 17 what adult thing I would be doing at 22, it would be far from what the reality was.

I think I imagined myself in a blazer and pencil skirt, humming around the offices of some sterile but aesthetically magnificent high-rise office with a pencil in my hair, and a million phone calls to make.  It’s funny- I have so many images of what responsibility LOOKS like, but so often it FEELS like chaos.  I think our twenties are about just that- responsibility as chaos, and hopefully, by the time we reach our thirties (or DEFINITELY by the time we reach our 40′s), it will feel more like a routine.  Though, if Liz Lemon is who I’m supposed to be looking up to, it might just be chaos for the rest of my life.  Maybe what being an adult is, is accepting that chaos will always be the norm.

You had to go and publish this on the day before my 27th birthday, #dark?

I’m about to turn 25 and I feel young as hell.  

Well, whatever.

I’m 23 and I can’t believe how much this post resonates with me. I wake up tired everyday and feeling like my heart’s going to fail at any moment even though my family has great genetics. Nobody’s died before 90 in my family but I still feel like death is right around the corner. Been trying to get over it. Thanks for this piece of thought.

I think people feel this way because there are typical happenings at these ages, but they’re  not necessarily what MUST happen. Some people outgrow the desire to drink til they vom by the time they’re 25, some people at 30, some people probably never do. 

I just turned 24 last week and have had some seriously depressing thoughts about turning 24. But why? It technically is very young. I, too, can really relate to this article. Actually, upon reading that you turned 25 I thought “wow 25..” and then realized most of my best friends at least 25, and my boyfriend will be 27 soon. I feel like there is great perceived difference between 20, 21, 22, and so on. At your most logical, you realize it is idiotic to think 24 is so older, but at your most self critical you feel like you haven’t accomplished anything.

It’s really dumb because you know our generation is going to live long lives.

You are living in the past

made me want to watch Reality Bites

At 25, I feel young and vibrant! Yes, single, still studying and no job yet but happy. Yeah, I don’t deny the fact that sometimes my body gets more tired than before, or at times, I couldn’t last long in bars or I couldn’t stay up till the wee hours of the night… but at the end of the day, it’s feeling great inside that shows who u are on the outside. 

Love your age! it’s just a number! 

I’m probably too young to be contributing to this, but I’m 18 and entering college. Seeing high school freshmen makes me tear up and I’m deathly afraid of turning 20.

Maybe focus on what makes you happy now instead of what made you happy when you younger. Realize that alcohol ain’t all you thought it was. Start to understand that it actually feels good to be healthier. Maybe you can actually like your job… enjoy being productive. Or, you know, get wasted and puke your 25 year old heart out, if you’re still into that sort of thing.

I think adulthood is always pictured with kids, a family, and basically getting joy from being responsible and a parent. Hence, you need to stop vomiting or hanging out late or not working 40hrs a week by 26. 

Ryan, I’m 25 and I literally have been having a mini crisi for the past few weeks about this very thing, so this was a really timely piece for me. I think the problem i have been having is that there seem to be so many guys who are older than us who will only date like 21 and under. The pressure to stay young is incredible and it makes me feel dried up already. Not to mention that i still feel 20 sometimes and then i’ll realize that people who are 18 were born in 1993…..I cant.

19 was also the first birthday I dreaded.
I turn 20 next month, haha.

I feel what you’re trying to convey in this, but it was a little all over the place.

It’s also vastly different between the city and the suburbs. When I lived in NYC, there were tons of other people my age, some had their shit together and some didn’t, and most were varying degrees of inbetween. More importantly, there were people in my social circle who were 10 years older  – some had their shit together and some didn’t, some were living their artistic dreams or partying all the time or working all the time or balancing work and fun. It pretty much ran the gamut.
Living further out in the suburbs, I feel there is more of a disconnect. People move here to settle down, whether they are 21 or 25 or 30 or 40, so there is a massive pressure to “settle down,” and the gap between “kid” and “adult” is more artifically pronounced.  People look at me – a 26-year-old, tattooed, single woman who dresses a little crazy and works full time in the arts  – like I’m from another planet. I have to go to the city every once in a while to get back to that state of mind again – to stop internalizing this idea that I’m somehow freakish for not being visibly a member of the EITHER kids’ group OR the adults’ group.

the first birthday i dreaded was probably my tenth as it marked my last year of primary school…. i was crazy!  i’ve been preoccupied with growing older, and letting go of my childhood/youth for more then half my life, and i’m only 21. each step of the way i always look back at myself and laugh. this article hits the nail on the head!! 

Listen, you don’t HAVE to do anything but pay your bills and show up to work on time and clean. (Or, if you can find a way to live that doesn’t involve work and bills that makes you happy, go for it.) You don’t have to be in a relationship, or any particular kind of relationship, you don’t have to have kids, you don’t have to have any particular kind of job or career. Don’t let yourself be constrained by  someone else’s fantasy of life – you decide what your life is going to be. That’s why being an adult is so much better than being a kid, because you can make your
own choices. Sometimes the options you get to choose from aren’t all
that great, but you get to choose – you make your own life.  I just turned 48. I chose to be single and child-free; I have a good job, I own my house and a new car, and yes, I still get hit on. Life is good! Make your own choices. If something – or somebody – makes you cry more than they make you smile, ditch them and move on. Don’t be afraid!

exactly. I just turned 18..and I feel so sad about it..

I think that’s the thing about suburban living; it’s expected you’re there because you want to settle down. When my friends leave the city for midwestern, suburban pastures that’s usually the reason–not that that’s the case for everyone, obviously.

That being said, sometimes hiding out somewhere a little… sleepier… sounds like a great idea.

sames! I recent turned 13, and I can’t believe how fast life is passing!! God I miss being in my ten’s…

people who are in their 80′s now justifiably could think 25 was old, especially because they were living in a time of world war. But by the time our generation is that age, we will just be starting because the advances in medical science and life extension will be unfathomable by then

haha, I’m glad you added that last little quip cause I was gonna say, there seems to me (25) to have been a big difference in the way I felt just two years ago. But you’re right. 23 is perfect. At 25 I feel some invisible mysterious whip being cracked behind me

haha yea especially on here, you can’t delete your posts and re-do.

This article totally nails it. I turned 24 last month and was feeling so old. At 23 I felt old but now 23 seems so much better than 24. I always feel that time is running out and that I should have achieved many things in my career by now or at least be going out a lot more. None of that is happening. I realize that being 20-something is still very young and that I should get over myself and enjoy it while I can but the age hangup still continues to nag me. I just can’t seem to help it

Wow I can’t believe I actually stumbled upon this. It is pretty sad but I am 22 years old and get this…I am a freshman at college. Well not exactly because I have taken a year of college before, but I am a freshmen in the sense that I have actually been accepted into the program I have been wanting to get accepted into. Still, I feel like shit when I think about it. I know 22 isn’t 25 obviously but tons of people actually give me a strange look when they find out I am only starting my first year in college and am 22. My landlord actually gave me  a WTF look, even though she said its not too old…I still think some people still think I am.

You are totally right though, so much pressure on people between the ages of 20 +. I mean sure there are pressure for teenagers and children as well but honestly, as I grow older that kind of pressure really is insignificant compared to real life adult stress/pressure. When I was before 18 years of age, I hoped to at least have finished college/university by 21 at the most and have a steady career at least by the age of 23. I felt that anything in the 20′s was definitely ancient back then….I also wanted to drive at 16 but I am 22 and I still don’t drive *facepalm*. Yea I know it’s not the end of the world but every little thing like this I can get sensitive to when I see other people who have accomplished more things than me while I am sitting here at 22. There are infinite amount of things I wish I could have done, and explored and wished I could have done by the age of 22 but I really haven’t. When I was a teenager, I wanted to party, drink, and have a fantastic mind blowing bday by 19…and well that certainly did not happen. >< Sometimes I feel as if life has pushed me to grow up far too fast, but at the same time I feel like I have not grown up enough. It is a vicious cycle of feelings.

Life isn't perfect and in this day and age, there are still a lot of people like me who have not accomplished nearly anything as much as they had hoped to by a certain age, so at least I know there are others like me out there. At least I am not going nowhere in life living like a basketcase pissing away my money, in debt, living in my parents basement at my age…but due to depression and other pressure, I can actually see myself becoming that way if I am not careful.

All I can do is just keep pushing forward even as I feel old.

wow I know what you mean. My roomates 19 and I’m only 3 years older but I still feel old as hell.

On a random note, I don’t know if anyone actually thinks about stuff like this but I sometimes do. How many of you go through your closet and go “….am I really going to wear this stuff in like the next 3, 5, or even ten years? How long are my clothes going to go? What if I end up being one of those weird old people who totally do not dress age appropriate and dress way too young for their age…”

I am just saying this cuz while I do not dress like a child, my clothes no where near look like something a middle aged person would wear. Even people who are 25 I don’t think would wear this but fashion differs for each person I guess…

I’m 28, and I love it! Everyone should enjoy life more, y’all take it too seriously! When you’re gone people aren’t gonna think, “oh, she didn’t finish school till she was 26″. Stressing out about birthdays is ridiculous!

Nice article. I, too, also felt that i was getting ‘too old’ when i turned 19 and didn’t want to celebrate it. I do feel that pressure and the need to get domesticated and get my act together, i suppose it has a lot to do with society’s expectations of what we are supposed to achieve at a certain point in time…. the type of “success” that revolves around whether you can say you have a great job, you’re engaged/married, have kids (hopefully towards the later end of the 20s) and own a home. Thanks for what you’ve written, it has made me think twice about what i want to do in the future. I really do need to remind myself everyday that i’m still young.

I’m turning 29 in 30 days, my last year in the 20s. I still go to brutal metal concerts, get tattoos, and make and sell art. I love life and never think twice about if I’m acting ‘my age’ I always hated people who complain about how they hate their life yet do nothing about it. Live people! Life is sweet and beautiful weather you’re single, have kids, are 19 or are 60. Do what YOU love.

I think the same thing. As I look through my clothes and while shopping, I quietly wonder to myself…at what age do I stop buying Juniors clothes and start buying Misses. That would be a very sad birthday. I just turned 24 in August and I don’t feel old, yet. I love birthdays, actually!!! I think I’ll always love celebrating my “birthday”, but the day that I have to buy misses/ladies clothes would be a hard one. I was thinking, is it at 30? Is if after I get married and have children? When?  

I turned 24 in August. Maybe it’s only natural for our generation to feel this way, because when you think about it. My grandma got married at 16, because my grandpa was in the military and was going away. They had their first baby the next year, followed by 8 more children. My mom got married at 19 and had her first child at 23, then 24, then me at 25. I looked at my mom’s high school year book (class of 81′) it was SO crazy. All of the answers to the question “Where do you see yourself in 5 years?” were “Married to so and so”. It’s crazy! I think our generation puts career first. I’m 24, but I wanted to finish college before I get married and have babies. I graduate in Dec, and hopefully I’ll get married next year. It just seems like our 20′s have so many steps and expectations to meet. The same steps and expectations that previous generations have started earlier. There childhoods were shortened back then, so it’s “like” there “20′s” started at 16. Nowadays 16 is a baby, ya know?

I started feeling this way at 24 (because before I was too preoccupied with college and school). I’m 26 now and am going through a rough time with this. I think I’m a future-oriented person. Some say we feel this way because we haven’t accomplished what we wanted. I think I have… in fact, maybe even more than I expected. I just look back on people who are in HS or just out of it and realize I cannot really hang out with them anymore. I’m used to being the youngest. I was one of the youngest in my family, in school, and in groups. It feels weird.

Also, I think I used to think that people reached their physical and mental peak in their 40s or 50s, but now I realize that it’s really your early 20′s… which means it’s all down hill from here. I think also, as I was growing up, I estimated people were older than they were. I’d think “That guy’s probably 50 or so” and now I learn that he’s actually 35. That scares me and skews my estimates of where we should be at certain ages.

Another thing that bothers me is that we can’t return to this time… yet. It really seems to go against nature that time cannot be undone. It also seems to go against nature that we keep aging until we are no longer in good health. Why, I ask? Why don’t we age to our prime and then stop? It makes so much more sense! I’m not saying I don’t want responsibility. Heck, I’m excited to own a house, get married, have kids, and manage a job. It just bothers me to think that I can never, ever revisit my teens, or early 20s, or childhood. I just want to be able to hold on to reasonable health (and appearance) as I get older. I want to get old… REALLY old… like… live forever old. I would just like to maintain good health.

In fact, I think deteriorating health, mental state, and, arguably, appearance, scares me the most. If I look and act 25, I have no problem telling someone I’m 114. Age is just a number, after all. I think what bothers me too is that when you’re younger, you’re progressively gaining things (strength, looks, maturity, tallness, new abilities), but in your mid-20s, that stops. I’ve been doing some research and found some really depressing statistics. Apparently we reach maximum mental sharpness at 22, sexual peak at 22, and we start to lose mental ability around 27. It’s so sad hearing this, especially because I thought this was so far away. I go to the YMCA and I see a chart showing maximum heart rate for age. It starts high at 20 (like 180) and gradually goes down. It makes me think I can’t compete with a 20-year-old, and that it’s all downhill from here. I know it’s not, but I just think that way.

Maybe I’m crazy for thinking this. I know I’m young, but I am not looking forward to getting any older. I like looking forward to good things. I want things to get progressively better.

Additionally, I’m 26. Now I know what 26 years feels like. However, I don’t know where the time goes. 26 years really flew by. I don’t even feel 26. I feel like I should be 22 or something. I have to think when people ask me my age. When I say 26, I just feel so old.

I’m usually a happy person, but lately I’ve been sad and monotonous and people have noticed. I’m sorry if this post is a bit on the negative side. That’s usually not my persona. It is great to see that others share this problem. It’s nice to have support.

The problems that bother me the most are the ones that I don’t think I have control over. This is one of them. Maybe we will have control someday. That would be nice.

You are one depressing human being.

Well, that’s what scares me. I’m not a depressing person. I’m quite happy and calm and people around me always tell me that. This just has me in a weird state.

Hahaha — lighten up, brother!  Wanna know what it’s like to be 46?  It’s just like being 26 but without all the angst.

Seriously, the world gets easier and easier as time goes by.  

Or at least it has for me. 

But then again, I never gave a tinker’s dam about any externally imposed schedules…  

I dreaded 19 and 29… 

(it gets better)

I didn’t share the sentiment at that age. For the longest time, I always thought 25 was an ideal age for various reasons and so getting there was optimal when I was younger. It wasn’t until after 25 that I began to feel old. 

Without going over a bunch of reasons, I’ll list a few here as to why I think 25 was considered an ideal age for me. 

1. I felt that you weren’t too old to hang out with the younger crowd and too young to hang with the older crowd. It was a solid age to be around everyone.
2. In the US, you get to legally obtain your driver license at 16, become an adult at 18, and officially drink at 21, but in some cases, can’t rent a car at certain car rental companies until you’re 25. It was the last number you had to reach before you could officially say you had the freedom to actually do everything.

3. Lastly, for most people, graduating college typically was around 22 (if you graduated on time) and 25 gave you a solid number of years to get your career going after college. For those that didn’t go, it was fairly a good number to land on to jump into entrepreneurship if you hadn’t already (albeit younger is better in this case).There were several other reasons but for a long while, I thought 25 was a good place to be. It wasn’t until after did I started to feel old…

Brendan,

I am 26 like you and can totally commiserate. I think I began to dread getting older at 24 too. Time definitely has started to speed up, it seems. I can remember celebrating the New Year last year as though it were yesterday. I cannot believe nearly 12 months have passed since then! It’s truly hard to believe.  It is a bit scary. I always feel like I’m running out of time! Also, I feel like, aside from work, I have accomplished very little as far as my most personal aspirations are concerned. In college, it felt like those four years were so full of activity. After college, it seems that the daily work grind took hold, leaving only the night time on weekdays as well as weekends to be productive in meeting my own goals and to enjoy life. 

You are right in that birthdays are exciting from adolescence until the end of college, as we are developing in positive ways each year during that time. When you think about it though, even in our twenties, we are continuing to improve and become more well-rounded; mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually, more with each passing year. I wouldn’t read too much into statistics; I feel like they serve only the purpose of inducing worriment, which does us no good. My parents are living proof that with age, come more mental sharpness, wit, and wisdom. Furthermore, I wouldn’t fret about deteriorating physically, as that won’t happen until hopefully, you reach a very old age, and by that time, you’ll have adapted to the inevitability of the human condition and your sentiment will have changed. Also, we’re all just souls in a temporary shell, anyway (ie. while your appearance will continually change, your soul remains the same).

The main point I am trying to get across is that I “get” what you are saying with regard to your thoughts on being a mid-twentysomething and I hope you don’t feel like you’re feelings aren’t shared by other people your age, as I think a lot of people go through similar rough times at this age. I think there’s even a book written on the subject, called ‘Quarter Life Crisis’ or something to that effect. It might help you work through your feelings; just a thought.

Happy New Year; oh the irony. 

“Fairy tales can come true, it can happen to you, if you’re young at heart” – Frank Sinatra

You’re going through this, because your mind is really working hard to process all the information, and transformations you have went through over the past several years, to determine who you really are.  You have to understand, the step from child -> teen -> adult is a HUGE hurdle in life.

You now know you need to shape yourselves, into a full fledged adult soon, your depth is expanding, your knowledge is expanding, your understanding, and even confusions are even more deep, and larger than they have ever been, and even your feelings are changing. Your mind is transitioning, it’s normal in life.

When you hit your 30′s, if you were a failure in your 20′s (like me) you’ll all of a sudden have the time, and attention span, energy, and excitement to start a fulfilling career. I  opened my own business, and after working hard at it, it’s making great money. I can do this with more businesses now. I would have never stuck around long enough, or even had the patience in my 20′s. They’re more for “finding yourself” years which is oddly what we do our ENTIRE life.

what are  you going to do, get anxiety or depression? you have to accept that society expects, you wont control it, but only how you think about it. ignore it, you are not born to just feel the judgment of others. you think youve reached your peak of mind? how on earth would you know? sounds like you have yet to challenge yourself and learn to stop judging anyone so harshly, you sound like you think pretty young to me

 i just turned 22 and am learning to accept the old feeling. Whenever i hear someone else is my age, I think, “They’re young!” so it’s a bit odd.

i am just scared of regrets as well as physical aging…as a woman, i feel that society places so much stress on us to be good looking and “forever young.” <-< Also, im hella lazy about my appearance, and hear the older you get, the more upkeep. And I want to get married…

I still plan on dressing how i want and practicing the fashion i like (ulzzang namely)…no matter how old i get…also, wont give up my reggaeton, videogames, anime, action figures etc. My mom is in her 60's and is a gamer and loves reggaeton…shes awesome, so luckily I just know it will make me cooler :)

But yeah, physical aging sucks. I am already obsessed with antiaging…….plan on getting plastic surgery in my 20's so i dont have to deal with it later (nose job/maybe chin reduction) o-o i have antiaging idols even…

anyway…