(March 21st to April 19th)
Figure out a way to find adventure right where you are, in your everyday life – learn an instrument, sign up for a class on something you know nothing about, plan a ‘trip’ to a place you’ve never been to right in your very own city. Remember that adventure doesn’t have to involve a plane or a beautiful villa or a foreign country.
(April 20th to May 21st)
Learn to become comfortable with the fact that you can’t control everything. Continue being the same loving, supportive, and thoughtful person and friend that you’ve always been, but find little ways to come to peace with the fact that you can’t control other people – try things like meditating, reading self-help books, and exercising to help you get there.
(May 22nd to June 21st)
Find small ways to finally address, head-on, the things that torment you on a daily basis – insecurity, self-doubt, anxiety, nervousness, tension. You can try a big step, like therapy or weekly yoga classes, or you can even try a few small steps first, like buying a book that talks about your struggle, or talking to a friend you trust.
(June 22nd to July 22nd)
Focus on the art of letting go – of accepting that you can’t control other people’s emotions, of forgiving that person that hurt you (even if they didn’t apologize), of figuring out how to feel emotions like anger and frustration and then how to release them once you’ve worked through them. Learn to stop clinging to the things that only weigh you down.
(July 23rd to August 22nd)
Focus on putting more effort into learning from others. You have no problem following your passion and leaning into your creativity, but you do struggle with remembering that you can learn from anyone, no matter what their background is or what their career is in. The smartest people in the world are the ones who realize that everyone has something useful to teach them.
(August 23rd to September 22nd)
Make a more conscious effort to speak up for yourself. You’re so worried about upsetting other people, or even just inconveniencing them, that you forget the importance of standing up for yourself and taking care of yourself. Before the end of this year, focus on asking for the things you deserve and voicing your opinion when you need to.
(September 23rd to October 22nd)
Work on your restlessness, and on your fear of missing out. You’re so worried about missing something fun or exciting somewhere else that you forget to be present for the special things that are happening right in front of you. So starting now, concentrate on being in the moment, and engaging with the people around you, and learning to be happy with just being right where you are.
(October 23rd to November 22nd)
Work on the jealousy you struggle with when it comes to other people’s success. There is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling jealous sometimes, but there is something wrong with letting it impact your actions. So for the rest of the year, concentrate on learning to be happy for others when they have success, and on understanding that just because something good happens to someone else, it doesn’t mean something is going to be taken away from you.
(November 23rd to December 21st)
Put more effort into doing things actively, purposely, and consciously. You are so good about trying to be positive, flexible, and adaptable no matter what, but this sometimes leans into you being a little too passive with a we’ll see what happens attitude about your life. By the end of this year, focus on making active, conscious choices instead of letting the chips fall where they may.
(December 22nd to January 20th)
This is a simple one, but focus on having fun! And just living a little. You’re always about the 5-year-plan and the career ambitions and that’s fantastic, but you also need to save room in your life for silliness, lightness, and a little bit of mischief. So as 2017 draws to a close, try relaxing a little bit more, and just letting yourself be goofy once in a while.
(January 21st to February 18th)
Your goal is as complicated and simple as they come: open up more. While it may seem like being emotionally separated and detached is protecting you, it’s actually just hurting you and isolating you in the long run. We are programmed to rely on the hearts of others, so as this year draws to a close and the next one opens fresh, focus on opening yourself up, slowly but surely, to the people you love and trust.
(February 19th to March 20th)
Hold yourself to a higher standard. Your compassion knows no bounds, but you never challenge yourself to use the incredible amount of potential you have. So the rest of this year, sign up for things that scare you, go out on a limb and apply for that job you’re not qualified for, and dare yourself to keep expanding your growth as far as you can.