Shahida Arabi

Shahida is a graduate of Harvard University and Columbia University. She is a published researcher and author of Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse and Breaking Trauma Bonds with Narcissists and Psychopaths. Her books have been translated into 16+ languages all over the world. Her work has been featured on Salon, HuffPost, Inc., Bustle, Psychology Today, Healthline, VICE, NYDaily News and more. For more inspiration and insight on manipulation and red flags, follow her on Instagram here.

11 Gaslighting Phrases That Are Only Manipulative When Narcissists Use Them

The same innocent phrases and claims used in everyday language by empathic people can also be used in manipulative ways by narcissistic individuals to gaslight their victims. Although theoretically these phrases can be said by anyone to manipulate, it’s common for narcissistic and psychopathic individuals to misuse these common phrases to maintain control over their relationships.

Songbirds, Snakes, Psychopaths: How Narcissists Pursue Love and Power In The Hunger Games

From the newly released prequel The Ballad of Songbirds and Snakes to The Mockingjay, both the Hunger Games movies and books have captivated modern audiences who often recognize chilling parallels between Suzanne Collins’ dystopian world to real life events. Panem may be a fictional world, but it grants us devastating insights into the ways love, revolution, resistance, and war play out in real life. In the books, Snow’s love is not about genuine care or empathy – as for most narcissistic or psychopathic people, it is about loyalty, ownership, and possession.

Trauma Bonded To A Narcissist? You May Display These 5 Behaviors

A trauma bond is an inextricable dysfunctional attachment you develop to people who harm you. It often includes seduction, betrayal, danger, and hot and cold behavior. An expert shares the five behaviors you may display if you are trauma bonded to a narcissist. 

The 12 Laws of Power, According to Narcissists

The 48 Laws of Power is one of the most famous books of all time. But did you know that narcissists have their own laws of power that they operate on? Here are twelve of their laws of power, explained by a researcher. Law #9: Leave a brutal impact so they always remember you, even if they did not desire you in the beginning.