Shahida Arabi
Shahida is a graduate of Harvard University and Columbia University. She is a published researcher and author of Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse and Breaking Trauma Bonds with Narcissists and Psychopaths. Her books have been translated into 16+ languages all over the world. Her work has been featured on Salon, HuffPost, Inc., Bustle, Psychology Today, Healthline, VICE, NYDaily News and more. For more inspiration and insight on manipulation and red flags, follow her on Instagram here.
11 Gaslighting Phrases That Are Only Manipulative When Narcissists Use Them
The same innocent phrases and claims used in everyday language by empathic people can also be used in manipulative ways by narcissistic individuals to gaslight their victims. Although theoretically these phrases can be said by anyone to manipulate, it’s common for narcissistic and psychopathic individuals to misuse these common phrases to maintain control over their relationships.
Songbirds, Snakes, Psychopaths: How Narcissists Pursue Love and Power In The Hunger Games
From the newly released prequel The Ballad of Songbirds and Snakes to The Mockingjay, both the Hunger Games movies and books have captivated modern audiences who often recognize chilling parallels between Suzanne Collins’ dystopian world to real life events. Panem may be a fictional world, but it grants us devastating insights into the ways love, revolution, resistance, and war play out in real life. In the books, Snow’s love is not about genuine care or empathy – as for most narcissistic or psychopathic people, it is about loyalty, ownership, and possession.
5 Surprising Traits That Make You A “Narcissist Magnet”
Many ask, “Why do I keep attracting narcissists and psychopaths?” There is usually nothing wrong with you – in fact, in many cases, there’s a lot right with you.
4 Christmas Movies About Love That Romanticize Red Flags and Toxic Relationships
These holiday Christmas romance movies may be your favorites, but there’s no denying they have some toxic messages about love and relationships.
Hundreds of Women Share Why They Quit Dating Apps (And Men), Say They’re Happier Single
Psychologists have noticed a trend in the dating world and in dating apps: many women are leaving en masse to pursue happier, more independent lives and focus on themselves.
6 Text Messages He Sends When He’s A High Value Man Vs. A Narcissist
Here are six text messages you might receive consistently if you’re dating a high-quality man or woman, backed up with actions – and why they mean something different than when a narcissist sends them, according to an expert.
If You Recognize These 3 Signs, You’re Being Love Bombed By A Psychopath
Full-fledged psychopaths are said to be rare, but researchers estimate that 30% of the general population has some level of psychopathic traits. Would you know if you were being love-bombed by one?
6 Ways Narcissists Manipulate You During Christmas And The Holidays, According to An Expert
Dealing with a holiday Grinch this Christmas? Here are six ways narcissists manipulate you during this time, according to an expert. Watch out for the red flags to protect yourself this holiday season.
6 Magical Ways To Have A Narcissist-Free Holiday Season
Here are six ways to protect yourself from toxic people and narcissistic Grinches this holiday season, according to an expert.
3 Unrealistic Love Lessons From “Gilmore Girls” That Were Actually Toxic
Gilmore Girls is undoubtedly one of the best written television shows, but it did have some unrealistic and toxic life lessons about love and romance we could have done without.
Trauma Bonded To A Narcissist? You May Display These 5 Behaviors
A trauma bond is an inextricable dysfunctional attachment you develop to people who harm you. It often includes seduction, betrayal, danger, and hot and cold behavior. An expert shares the five behaviors you may display if you are trauma bonded to a narcissist.
5 Red Flags You’re Experiencing “Crazymaking” By A Narcissist, According to An Expert
An expert reveals the red flags to watch out for if you think you’re experiencing “crazymaking” by a narcissist. Being deliberately vague in their responses to your direct questions to avoid accountability.
3 Tests That Reveal A Narcissist’s True Colors, According To An Expert
There are many ways to figure out whether someone has narcissistic tendencies and traits. Here are the three biggest “tests” you can use to reveal a narcissist’s true colors, according to a researcher. The Red Herring Test.
Narcissists May Be More Common In These 3 Careers, Experts Say
Every industry and profession has its share of narcissistic and even psychopathic individuals, as well as its share of empathic people.
9 Signs You’re Experiencing “Quiet Gaslighting” By A Narcissist, According To An Expert
An expert shares nine signs that you’re experiencing what is known as “quiet gaslighting” by a narcissistic partner.
6 Dating “Laws of Power” That Help Women Avoid Narcissists, According To An Expert
Men and women can both be narcissists, but women tend to experience specific risks in the dating world. Here are ways they can protect themselves from manipulation, according to a researcher. Narcissists can be male or female.
The 12 Laws of Power, According to Narcissists
The 48 Laws of Power is one of the most famous books of all time. But did you know that narcissists have their own laws of power that they operate on? Here are twelve of their laws of power, explained by a researcher. Law #9: Leave a brutal impact so they always remember you, even if they did not desire you in the beginning.
‘Fair Play’ Exposes How Romances With Envious Narcissists Become Deadly Power Struggles
Netflix’s new psychological thriller “Fair Play,” written and directed by Chloe Domont, sheds light on the role that misogyny, gender roles, and even narcissism play in modern romantic relationships and the workplace, turning would-be whirlwind romances into destructive power plays.…