Shahida Arabi

Anyone can be the target of a narcissistic, toxic person. Yet INFJs, touted to be the rarest Myers-Briggs personality type, tend to be surprisingly overrepresented among victims of narcissists. Here are three major reasons why INFJs tend to fall prey to narcissists – and why narcissists gravitate towards them.

Have you ever been bullied or excluded by a group? Taunted by a narcissistic individual who enlisted the help of others to further undermine you? You may have been the victim of a narcissistic “conspiracy.”

There is one thing that distinguishes a wolf in sheep’s clothing early on from a genuine person. Can you guess what it is?

60. Are you more emotionally stable when you’re single or in a relationship?

PTSD and Complex PTSD aren’t just reserved for war veterans. Those who suffer psychological war zones in the form of abuse and assault can be just as susceptible to their symptoms.

Those who are taught by their life circumstances that they will continue to be terrorized despite their efforts to overcome adversity might give in to a sense of powerlessness instead. This is a phenomenon known as “learned helplessness.”

Avoidance of social interactions and intimate relationships. Excessive feelings of low self-esteem, shame and inadequacy. Withdrawal from situations where one is likely to be criticized. Hypersensitivity to rejection. These are just some of the traits of Avoidant Personality Disorder. But it goes beyond just anxiety or shyness.

The malignant narcissists and sociopaths who walk among you are probably people you know and like – and if you haven’t personally been victimized by them, you’re none the wiser.

We forget to give ourselves permission to dislike someone, to address conflict, to confront issues, or even just to acknowledge when someone has reached epic levels of douchebaggery.

The art of the subtle sabotage, much like the art of the pity ploy, is used to stage an environment of psychological warfare. It’s a set of manipulations within the abuse cycle that leads to an elaborate game of chess – if chess were an epic, elaborate game of mindf*ckery that is.

The truth is that narcissists are very adept at impression management – in managing the ways others perceive them. They will appear to praise their victims in public, all while criticizing and demeaning them in private. They will provoke their victims into emotionally reacting – and they will use their reactions to the abuse to depict them as “unhinged.”

She’ll leave when she’s finally had enough. And when she walks away, she’ll walk away for good.

Ask yourself: which moments am I romanticizing? Which moments am I forgetting? I’ll bet that if you look closely, you won’t just remember those romantic trips and dates, but also the crazymaking arguments preceding them. If you reevaluate all those times they bought you flowers and gifts, you’ll also remember the countless times you cried yourself to sleep, trying to get them to understand your point of view.

The narcissistic female’s rage is not unlike the narcissistic man’s in intensity, but because of social stigma surrounding female anger, the narcissistic female may communicate her rage in more subtle ways.

“Love isn’t supposed to be painful. Let yourself feel whatever it is you feel and get through it – there is joy to be had. Loneliness is not a good reason to invite toxic people back into your life.”

We all know that malignant narcissists like to provoke, taunt and destroy people – all with clean hands. But what are some of the sneakiest ways they manipulate and terrorize their victims? I asked over a hundred survivors what the most insidious way a narcissist has abused them and the answers were shocking.

No Contact is the key that locks out that person from ever entering our heart, mind, and spirit in any palpable way again.

They engage in what I like to call “coded language.”