Sabrina Bendory

Don’t punish yourself for someone else’s decisions or mistakes or stupidity. All his rejection means is he’s not the right guy for you.

He is the type of guy I refer to as a “damage case,” a guy who has a lot of potential hidden under a pile of issues. The “bad boy” who needs to be saved.

We think they’re so confusing. We think it doesn’t make any sense. We think they play games and send mixed messages. We don’t understand why.

You have to deal with your damage. That’s the only way to get rid of it and not let it spill into our future and ruin it.

Ask yourself what thoughts/behaviors led you into this relationship. What did you bring to the relationship that was good and that you could use in your next relationship?

Explosive chemistry isn’t what creates a lasting, healthy relationship. It can lead to great sex and feelings of euphoria, and you may come to understand why they say love is a drug, but no matter how intense and all consuming, that sort of thing is seldom sustainable long term.

We continue to live life in the same way and hope that it will somehow lead to different results.

Understanding how men think and what they need in a relationship makes an enormous difference.