In this modern age of dating, we expect people to keep it cool, and the real winner is the one who cares less. But if that’s winning, I’d rather lose the game altogether.
I know you think that if you hold out a little longer, he’ll change his mind. But he won’t. And that’s okay because he’s not the one for you.
One single sentence motivates me to work harder than ever before: “I’m proud of you.”
The inner critic is not the real you—it is an invented persona.
Try to respond to people by assuming they mean the best, not the worst.
It’s worth the wait.
No matter how I rephrase the story or try to think of the variables, I know that that was the end for us. There isn’t going to be another chance, another time together, or another us. There is no going back, only moving forward.
You can’t allow fear to stop you from living your life. No matter what path you choose, there are always going to be things that could go wrong. Even if you end up taking the safest route, there are no guarantees.
‘Ferris Bueller’s Day Off.’
Just go to school, Ferris.
When someone you love is hurting, you never feel like you’re doing enough.
I recently strolled into a large beauty retailer and asked where I could find the clean (i.e. healthier) makeup.
You expose them to the worst sides of yourself because you feel like you can be real around them. You feel like you can trust them. You feel like they aren’t going to abandon you, just because you happen to be in a bad place right now.
Your person isn’t supposed to save you. They’re supposed to support you.
ARIES: When you pay more attention to your phone than him.
I search for him across the sea of hungry faces. Hoping to catch his eye, but he’s not within sight.
But I believe love is always worth the fight in the end.
I’ve been the girl in relationships that dragged on longer than they should have. I ignored the obvious signs; opting to fight for something that wasn’t worth fighting for.
You always hear about toxic relationships, but you never think you’ll be in one.
I hope you know that you have been so brave.
A note to my past self, one year ago.
If the highs mean taking lows too often, that’s not tolerable for either of you.
It wasn’t until recently that I realized why I was attracted to guys who weren’t vocal about their emotions or are affectionate. The answer was because that’s how my parents were.
You will cry.
I had a dream last night that I was driving really fast down a highway.
Here’s the truth folks: there is no such thing as being “the best.”
Why do you rush about your life? Really pause for a moment and think about it.
I can’t risk making you my forever.
“Oh, you’re allergic to that? Oops.”
When you hit rock bottom, you find that God is the rock at the bottom.
I won’t wait for you because I’d lose respect for myself.
I no longer need to rely on the affection of another’s.
When you love someone, you don’t accuse them of being overdramatic or oversensitive. You don’t act like they’re making a big deal out of nothing. You don’t discredit their feelings, their fears, their struggles.
The common theme in all my journals unveiled a deeper issue: How badly I needed and wanted to be loved.
Say yes to that bus pass. Say yes to living your life. Say yes to feel a smile upon your face. Say yes to taking risks. Say yes to taking chances.
Letting go entirely is difficult, and you might find yourself shedding some parts and holding on to others. But shedding portions of yourself is necessary for growth.
Your phone is listening to you even when you aren’t using it.
I push people away because I can’t afford to be heartbroken, and still I always am.
ARIES: The way you feel right now isn’t the way you’re going to feel forever.
You have to do more than pick a photographer and DJ. You also have to pick out signage and linens and cake cutting songs. There are a million little decisions to make, which can be stressful AF.
I miss you. I never wanted to say goodbye, I never wanted to see you walk away.
I am not one to doubt God or his power, but sometimes I worry that He isn’t listening.
Not every emotionally unavailable person is a narcissist, but every narcissist is emotionally unavailable.
I want someone who believes in me when I doubt myself.
You walked away from the flames, you may have been burned, but you’re still here. You weren’t consumed by the fire.
What if his departure leads him to disappear from my life?
There’s a little patch of Band-Aid on my arm where my blood was taken for the AIDS antibody test. Perhaps in as early as a week, I’ll know if I’ve been exposed to the AIDS virus. Dr. Rundle, the gay doctor I went to, told me to sign a fictitious name to the consent form. I signed it “William F. Buckley, Jr.”
Thank you for art and museums.
They need a lot of praise to avoid their fear that they’re not good enough. If you don’t provide this praise, they’ll fish for it.
It’s not okay to lie to people just because you’re confused and you’re looking for a way out.