She needs a man who is comfortable enough to allow her to pursue her dreams and is not threatened by the accolades or attention she may receive from pursuing these dreams.
The last thing a single woman needs is more blame.
Does it matter to you if he was married before or if he has kids?
Keep your holiday calendar fully-booked.
You need a man who loves you enough to put your needs first; who is proud of you and your accomplishments; who accepts you despite your imperfection.
Agreeing to a date is just that- agreeing to a date. It is an opportunity to discover if you might be interested in someone. It is not an obligation to be interested and certainly not an obligation to be intimate.
I realize that part of why she made an impression on me was her courage and openness even with such a short future; her willingness to continue to live her life in a normal way, not frenzied or bitter.
Knowing what I know now I would not have wasted any of my life trying to make these square pegs fit in round holes.