A Strong Woman Doesn’t Intimidate A Real Man


The idea that strong women are intimidating and unattractive to men is one that has permeated across societies and cultures. Coupled with the other toxic notion that a woman’s greatest ambition in life is to find and marry a man, women have been discouraged from cultivating strength, power and independence. According to traditional values, these traits are best left in the hands of men, and to pursue these attributes would be unbecoming and unfeminine for a woman, surely leaving her alone.

Thankfully, it is 2016 and some of these ideologies about how a woman should act and her place in this world have become antiquated with modern times. However, for some men, strong women are still a source of discomfort and intimidation.

To these men, the woman who speaks her mind is merely loud. The woman who places her worth in her own hands instead of the hands of men is disconnected. The woman who tells you what she needs is bossy. The woman who is career driven is uptight.

The strong woman is unattractive.

But the truth is, if you cannot appreciate a woman who is self-assured, a woman who is unapologetically, completely and defiantly herself, then you’re the one missing out, not her.

If you cannot handle a strong woman who chases dreams and goals and promotions, then you’re honestly just kind of a dick. If you expect a woman to change so she aligns with your own ideas of how a woman should or should not be, then keep walking because she’s definitely not stopping for you.

And please note that a strong woman will not mind if you are intimidated. Not even slightly! She will not change her demeanor to make your masculinity feel less threatened. A strong woman will not make herself smaller to make you feel bigger. A strong woman will not be quiet so your voice is the only one that echoes. She will not fail to express her opinion if it differs from yours.

A strong woman will not change herself to make you like her, and she will not try to convince you to feel differently about her either. Because here’s the thing:

If you’re intimidated by strong women, she is not interested in you anyway. TC mark

Molly Burford

Writer. Editor. Hufflepuff. Dog person.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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