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Thank You For Being My Best Friend

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Dear Best Friend,

I originally wanted to write you a letter about why you’re my best friend and saturate it with all the generic reasons and adorable anecdotes, but I’m not going to do that because you already know why you’re my best friend, duh. If you didn’t, we probably wouldn’t have remained friends all these years. Ten years? Thirteen? I actually have no idea.

Of course I don’t — I have no concept of time whatsoever. If it were up to me no one’s birthday or graduation or other important event would be remembered, because that’s the type of person I am; I can’t make it anywhere on time, or even on day, and I tend to forget where I’m going to begin with. But you remember things like this, and you know exactly how long we’ve been best friends. That will be the first thing you tell me after you read this. Thank you for knowing that. Thank you for knowing all the things I don’t.

Thank you for always being closest to me even when we were in separate time zones and separate stages of life. Thank you for not letting us get split by dumb facts like distance or time. Thank you for never giving up on our friendship, for never shrugging and being like “Eh, things change, people change” and drifting away vaguely because we’re victims of circumstance. We all get distant to a certain degree when we make huge transitions but you didn’t let me get very far because you knew what was truly important.

Thank you for taking care of me in every way possible, for being there when no one else was or wanted to be and when you didn’t even have to be. Everyone has those friends who are close but not really; who you always feel kind of awkward and weird about asking for help and like you have to clarify you’ll do them some kind of favor in return, but you’re not one of those. You never got mad when I didn’t call you for weeks on end because I was too busy being someone’s girlfriend, but you were right there to pick up my heart-splinters when things predictably shattered. You were and are there for everything, no bargaining or explanations needed.

Thank you for being a different friend than everyone else, different from the friends who are only there for the fun things, the art museums and shopping and benders and brunch. I’ve never been to an art museum with you because I’m sure we would end up arguing over whether or not Basquiat was any good, and we both know going on a bender isn’t worth it because you always pass out first, but I still feel like I can do anything with you and it won’t suck. Thank you for always being fun even when we’re not having fun. I don’t know how else to explain that.

Thank you for believing in me when I was too weak and exhausted to believe in myself. Thank you for pushing me, for repeating those affirmations that don’t mean anything in inspirational films but mean everything when someone who cares about you says them. Thank you for not judging me when I did something really stupid, but also thanks for telling me I was an idiot and probably shouldn’t have done the stupid thing. Thank you for always being honest.

Thank you for doing all the things a real best friend does; for letting me sob into your shoulder when I need to and handing me the flask when there aren’t any more words. Thank you for always knowing who I am and reminding me of that when I forget. Thank you for being genuinely concerned with the outcome of my life and always listening, even when you’re tired. Thank you for telling me the things no one wants to hear and sparing the bullshit advice. I can’t think of many other people I’d actually take a bullet for.

And yeah, I know everyone likes to make grand emotional claims like that in Courier typeface against some Polaroid of a lonely lamppost, but the difference is I’d actually do it.

Love always,

Your Best Friend TC mark

image – Ghost World

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    • http://twitter.com/katiereedII Katie Reed

      Awesome. Just forwarded this to my best friend. Thanks.

    • Gmo Saza

      I don’t think everyone has friendships this close.  You’re a lucky one.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100003197905700 Alix Harvey

      Made me tear up thinking about my best friend. definitely sending to him now. 

    • Verbro

      Thank you for being a friend, traveled down the road and back again, your heart is true you’re a pal and a confidant… and if you threw a party invited everyone you knew, you would see the biggest gift would be from me and the card attached would say… THANK YOU FOR BEING A FRIEND.

    • Anonymous

      Story of my life…. I love my best friend so much!

    • Bibs

      It’s not very often a 17 year old can claim to have had a best friend for 14 1/2 years.
      I feel truly blessed and there isn’t a day that goes by when I don’t thank my lucky stars
      <3

    • Anonymous

      yep. totally sending this to my best friend! I love that whore. the kind of friend who inspires people to say, “I never see one of you without the other” and despite the fact that we’re 25 & that could be considered slightly embarrassing, we OWN IT. 

    • Shatha H.

      Thank you for posting this…

      Best friends are the most valuable thing in out lives, such gem is not easy to find, but when found…our lives changes

      All the love of the world to my very best friends…

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100002598124977 Traci Livinlovinlaughin Herbst

      Aww I love this because I have had my best friend since 5th grade…so that’s ummm 17 years? Yepp! And we live 600 miles away and we still know everything about one another, we know we can call whenever we need to, and sometimes we talk EVERY day for weeks and sometimes not for weeks, BUT she is my very best. Ups and Downs, and she always puts me in check, ALWAYS! My boyfriend should be VERY happy that she always tells me whats up and stop being a dickhead. She’s my fave person with a dirty whorish mouth.

    • Jessica

      yay best friends! right as i saw the link for this article my best friend texted me a picture of the Foster Farms chickens and labeled it “best friends forever” (aka us)

    • http://www.about.me/tanyasalyers Tanya Salyers

      Definitely passing this along, it’s one of the best feelings – knowing that you have a best friend, no matter what.

    • Sonya

      This is so, so perfect.

    • Marta

      Articles like this make me feel… sad? Can’t decide: I’ve either lost my best friend or never had one to begin with. Oh, and how desperate I am to have a best friend.

      Cherish what you have (:

      • http://twitter.com/godwearsfendi Opik

        Let’s be friends then :D

    • http://twitter.com/mitzyredmango Mitzy


      Thank you for telling me the things no one wants to hear and sparing the bullshit advice.” 

      True. I think, real friends will tell what’s the problem face on. It’s harder to swallow, but it’s what we really need to hear (and know). :) 

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1499196945 Carolina Quiroga

      Loved itttt!!

    • Clitty McLabia

      THIS. IS. SO. PERFECT. 

      My best friend moved to San Francisco and it did not stop us from calling each other every week. I love her the mostest (not a word, I know). 

      Thank you. I will email this to her now.

    • irfan hassan

      i love so much that is so good and it’s heart warming

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      Reblogged this on Journey and commented:
      “Thank you for believing in me when I was too weak and exhausted to believe in myself. Thank you for pushing me, for repeating those affirmations that don’t mean anything in inspirational films but mean everything when someone who cares about you says them. Thank you for not judging me when I did something really stupid, but also thanks for telling me I was an idiot and probably shouldn’t have done the stupid thing. Thank you for always being honest.”

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