Date The Girl That Drives You Crazy


There’s an old quote that I completely love:

“Unless it’s mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it’s a waste of time. There are too many mediocre things in life. Love should not be one of them.”

— Unknown

Yes. Yessss. I want to take whoever came up with that line and just freaking squeeze them. They understand. They get it. They know that life’s too dang short and we can’t settle for love that doesn’t make us feel something.

Love shouldn’t be mediocre.

It shouldn’t be boring, shouldn’t be blah, shouldn’t be monotonous, or going through the motions. Hell, love shouldn’t be easy. And I’ll stand by that.

Sure, falling in love should be easy. You fall for their smile, for their looks, for their touch, for the way their presence makes your heart literally bounce around in your chest.

But actual love is hard. It’s about choosing someone, day after day after day.

Choosing them, even through their b.s. and tears and full-blown screaming matches and random annoying things they do. Choosing them because no matter how angry you get, you literally cannot live without them in your life.

Love’s not supposed to be easy. It’s supposed to be about caring for someone, so much so, that you willingly fight through hell, together, so that you can always find your way back into each other’s arms.

That’s why I firmly believe that out of all the people in the world, you should date the girl that drives you crazy. Date the girl that makes you feel something.

The one whose yell makes you want to rip your hair out, whose tears make your stomach tie itself in knots. The one who makes you so physically mad you want to scream.

But also the one whose smile cannot help bring out yours, whose laugh brightens even your most bitter of days, whose touch sends electric shocks from your brain to your knees to your toes.

Love isn’t supposed to be about finding someone who fits perfectly with you, who calms and compliments you in every puzzle-piece, cookie-cutter type of way.

No. Love is meant to be two completely independent people somehow finding a way to mesh into one another’s lives. It’s supposed to be confusing and difficult. It’s supposed to be messy. It’s supposed to be real.

And it’s supposed to drive you completely crazy.

So crazy that you keep chasing after it, keep falling back into it, keep desiring the way your heart skips and your hands sweat and your mind spins after every kiss.

Don’t date the girl that’s one-dimensional and stoic. Don’t date the girl that says everything she’s supposed to, never fights with you, and always stands by your side quiet and unoriginal and boring. Don’t date the girl that doesn’t make your heart go absolutely nuts.

Because that’s not real love, and it won’t last.

Fall for the girl that drives you crazy.
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Marisa is a writer, poet, & editor. She is the author of Somewhere On A Highway, a poetry collection on self-discovery, growth, love, loss and the challenges of becoming.

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