25 Lessons About Beauty We Should Teach Girls When They’re Little

Jane Tan
Jane Tan

1. The world’s definition of beauty doesn’t have to define you.

2. But you can choose how you wish to define beauty in the world.

3. Your existence and worth as a human being is not attached to whether the world finds you beautiful.

4. But there is beauty in knowing your inherent worth as a person.

5. You don’t owe anyone “being beautiful.”

6. But you do owe it to yourself to find the beauty in you, so you can find the beauty in others.

7. It’s a good thing to take care of yourself on the outside, and you should.

8. But you shouldn’t ever let that care consume the person you are, or the person you might become.

9. There’s always going to be a reason at any age, to be insecure about how you look.

10. But rather than let your insecurities lead, if you choose confidence, you’ll find that it’s always a good look.

11. There is always going to be another beautiful girl in the room.

12. But rather than see the other beautiful girl in the room as someone to compete with, see her as someone who is the beautifully complex human you are: someone who loves, fears, and who also has imperfections.

13. Learn to love your imperfections because many of them are the things that make you different from everyone else.

14. But know that having imperfections are also what make you similar to everyone else.

15. Choose to be around people who see you, the real you, and all of you.

16. But do not be afraid of the people who can’t see you, and don’t let their lack of (in)sight determine the spaces you choose to enter.

17. There’s nothing wrong with getting dolled up a little or a lot, and feeling beautiful because of it.

18. But know too that there’s a girl who’ll always live in you, who wants to be comfortable with herself before the bells and whistles.

19. Learning to still love yourself in those moments when you feel anything but beautiful, is one of the most difficult things you can attempt.

20. But attempting this sort of self-love teaches you that your perceptions of your beauty should transcend circumstance.

21. Your scars, both the ones that can be seen and the ones that can’t, are to be cherished.

22. But however significant those scars are, don’t define yourself entirely by them.

23. Know that beauty doesn’t have to be loud and ostentatious. It can be soft and quiet, and it often is.

24. But know too that you don’t have to hide your beauty. Don’t make yourself less than or try to be smaller for the sake of beauty.

25. And always, always remember that however you wear your beauty, the best forms of it will always be kindness, compassion, honesty, and love. Those things, more than anything else, are what will make your beauty timeless. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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