Being a woman in the world is many things, but one thing it isn’t is easy. There are many ways to handle the challenges that you might face as a woman. The best way, however, is to be a badass. Badass women come in many different forms, but there are also many things they have in common. In partnership with ABC’s Quantico, here are 10 things no truly badass woman will stand for – part of an ongoing series on Thought Catalog — “The New Rules of Badass Women.”
1. Being spoken to without respect
Respect is a given when talking to a badass woman. She’ll give it to you and you’ll give it back. Should anyone choose to engage in discussion with her in a disrespectful manner, she’ll either remind him or her to reassess their manners, or simply remove herself from discussion entirely.
2. Being treated as a damsel in distress
While a badass woman is not afraid to be treated like a traditional lady your grandmother would be proud of, she makes it clear at all times that she is not a damsel in distress. She can usually take care of her business by herself. And if she ever needs your help, she’ll ask.
3. Unhealthy relationships
Badass women do not take it for granted that everyone will turn out to be the type of person they want to be around. So if they must let a relationship go in order to maintain a healthy sense of self, they will.
There’s nothing less amusing to a badass woman than inauthenticity. Whether it’s a fake smile or a disingenuous remark, putting her in a position where she has to “play along” is not a good idea. Not only will she not play along, she’ll call you out plainly and leave you feeling foolish.
5. Emotionally draining people
Badass women tend to be busy people with a lot going on in their lives. Because their time is so precious, they have little if any of it left for emotionally draining people. Whether it’s stressful coworkers or unavoidable acquaintances, they stay polite by staying at a distance.
Chances are, a badass woman always wants more. And if it’s not more she wants, it’s something different. Either way, she’s rarely complacent and satisfied with her life – and this keeps her going.
7. Being silenced
No badass woman will ever let you get away with silencing her. She simply won’t stay silent to “keep the peace,” or to make others happy if it comes at a cost to her sanity and well-being.
8. Being taken for granted
While a badass woman will never beg for validation, she will also not let you take her for granted. And if she needs to remind you every now and then that she always has options, she will.
9. Backhanded compliments
Everyone likes compliments. But if your compliment is going to be served with a side of bitterness, badass women everywhere would prefer that you keep it to yourself entirely.
10. Being powerless
The absolute worst feeling in the world for a badass woman is powerlessness. She doesn’t accept it in herself and she won’t accept it in you. She knows that as long as she’s breathing, she has power. And she’ll always remind you of this about yourself, too.