If You Feel A Little Lost In Your Mid 20s Remember This

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“Oprah Winfrey was fired from one of her first jobs because she was “unfit for TV.” Walt Disney was told a mouse would never work. J.K. Rowling was on welfare. Steven Spielberg got rejected from film school … three times. The Beatles were dropped by their record label. Stephen King received 30 rejections for “Carrie.” Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team. Steve Jobs was removed from the company he started.” – Business Insider

It’s okay if you don’t feel like you’re on the right track right now.

Discomfort is good. Those feelings of unease and wondering where you are going and when you are going to get there is okay. Don’t think you are the only one feeling these things. Even people who love their job and love their life feel these things sometimes. What matters is what you are doing to take small steps towards something you think you think you might want and what might make you happier. It’s just as important to feel these strong negative emotions because when you do get it right you’ll be even more grateful for what you have when you get it.

It’s okay to feel like everyone is running ahead of you.

Maybe every one of your friends is in a relationship. And you just haven’t met the right person yet. Maybe your mailbox is overwhelmed with bridal shower or wedding invites. Maybe some of your friend’s are even having children. That track works for them. But those rules don’t apply to you. It isn’t a competition when the only person you are competing against is the one you were yesterday.

Don’t be afraid of making drastic life changes.

Maybe you want to quit a job that is making you miserable. Maybe you want to completely relocate but you are a little bit afraid. Maybe you want to take a trip you have continued to hold off on. Maybe there is someone you really want to date but you’ve been too afraid to make any sudden moves. That fear is an indication that you might be onto something and whatever chance you take will be worth it. Go for it. Whatever that it is.

It’s okay to let some people go.

Sometimes we simply outgrow people even those people we thought would be a part of our lives forever. Understanding that sometimes letting someone go when you have nothing left to offer each other is the bravest thing you can do. When you try and harbor relationships that just don’t fit into your life or fit into the person you are now, you’ll find yourself reminiscing in the past and you realize that’s all you have in common these days.

You’re allowed to move on.

Maybe it’s the town you grew up in and you’re having a tough time letting it go. Maybe it’s an ex you can’t seem to cut ties with. Maybe it’s a mistake you haven’t forgiven yourself for. Let it go and allow yourself to be happy. Moving on and allowing yourself to heal isn’t selfless. Letting things and people go for your own happiness and well-being is okay. You deserve to lead the type of life right now you are really proud of.

You don’t owe anyone an explanation for the life choices you make.

Everyone is going to judge you in your life. They are going to judge you for the things you do and they will judge you for the things you don’t. But the moment you realize what’s more important is your own happiness vs. someone’s understanding and approval for the life you lead, you end up with this new freedom. It’s there you’ll learn about the real relationships you have in your life. That person who has your back and is your number one cheerleader and truly believes in you when everyone else will question and doubt you, those are the people you need in your life.

It’s okay to fall flat on your face sometimes.

To fail at anything means you are trying something new and trying something that is outside of your comfort zone. You’ll learn more from your life failures than you ever will moments of success. And it’s in those moments of failure you learn who you are. Maybe you got fired. Maybe you got dumped. Maybe you royally messed up a relationship. It isn’t what you do wrong that is an indication of who you are it’s what you learn and how you bounce back from rock bottom.

Don’t be afraid of the things you want.

Jim Carrey once said, so many of us choose our path out of fear disguised as practicality. What we really want seems impossibly out of reach and ridiculous to expect, so we never dare to ask the universe for it. I’m saying, I’m the proof that you can ask the universe for it.”

No matter how crazy it may seem to other if there is something you can’t stop thinking about go for it. Take a chance. Work to get there and understand the things we yern for most won’t come easy that’s why we want them so badly.

Learn to say no without explaining yourself.

Don’t go to that party just because you feel like you have to. Don’t stay somewhere just because it’s the polite thing to do to stay for a certain amount of time. Don’t agree to things just because you’re afraid to say no. Learn to say no to the things you don’t want and don’t apologize or give a reason as to why. The only thing you need to base your decisions on is what’s in your heart. If you follow what’s in your heart you will never fail.

Learn to say thank you. I’m sorry. And I love you.

Thank you.

Learn to be grateful for the things you have. Take a step back and remember when you didn’t have them. Remember when you were praying for the things you have now and take little moments to realize even in moments of doubt and heartbreak and confusion you are lucky. Find something to be grateful anything.

I’m sorry.

Learn when to apologize. Learn when you are wrong. Learn to own up to your mistakes and be genuine. Don’t dwell on the things you did wrong just learn to make it right and forgive yourself.

I love you.

If you love someone don’t be afraid to say it. You don’t have to say those three words to someone you are in a relationship with. Understand love is something a part of every relationship and don’t be afraid to tell people you love them. End every conversation with those three words that matter most. TC mark

Kirsten Corley

Kirsten is the author of But Before You Leave, a book of poetry about the experiences we struggle to put into words.

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