18 Differences Between The Guy Who’s Ready To Settle Down And The Guy Who Just Wants To Have Fun

Once you’re in your twenties, you’re constantly going to come across guys who are ready to settle down and guys who just want to have fun. One type of guy is not better than the other. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to just have fun, and there’s nothing wrong with being ready for commitment. The problem comes when you’re feeling one way and you choose to be with a guy who’s on a completely different page than you are. Here are 18 ways to help you distinguish guys who are ready to commit versus guys who aren’t looking for anything serious right now.
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1. The guy who’s ready to settle down will talk about the future with you without hesitation. Not in an aggressive, clingy way, but in a way that shows you he’s not afraid to admit he is thinking long-term. The guy who just wants to have fun tries to avoid any conversations near the topic of the future in any way possible.

2. The guy who’s ready to settle down will make plans with you for a trip next year. The guy who just wants to have fun will make plans with you for this Friday.

3. The guy who’s ready to settle down will tell you that some of his favorite things about you are unique quirks and aspects of your personality or your appearance that you’ve never even noticed before. The guy who just wants to have fun will tell you that you are awesome and fun and a really cool girl.

4. The guy who’s ready to settle down wants to hang out with you on a Sunday afternoon. The guy who just wants to have fun will try to meet up with you on Friday night when he’s at the bar.

5. The guy who’s ready to settle down wants to meet your parents and your friends and introduce you to his. The guy who just wants to have fun will occasionally encounter your friends or have you encounter his, but usually it’s more by accident.

6. The guy who’s ready to settle down shares his Netflix password with you. The guy who just wants to have fun is not ready to take that step in your relationship right now.

7. The guy who’s ready to settle down remembers all the little tiny details about you and your life that you mention to him. The guy who just wants to have fun sometimes has a hard time remembering how many siblings you have or what you majored in in college.

8. The guy who’s ready to settle down feels comfortable talking to you when he’s had a bad day or something’s on his mind. The guy who just wants to have fun usually avoids those discussions and tries to not worry about it for as long as he can.

9. The guy who’s ready to settle down is perfectly happy to spend a Friday night hanging out with you in your pajamas on the couch. The guy who just wants to have fun will get pretty restless if you guys aren’t always up and about, going to a bar or heading to a party.

10. The guy who’s ready to settle down will talk to his friends about you and what his plans are. The guy who just wants to have fun usually gives his friends minimal details about his dating life and who he’s currently seeing.

11. The guy who’s ready to settle down will just call you his girlfriend one day without giving it a second thought. The guy who just wants to have fun tells you he just wants to keep things casual.

12. The guy who’s ready to settle down feels solid about where he is in his career and his life, even if he knows he has a long way to go. The guy who just wants to have fun is living in more of a day-to-day world right now.

13. The guy who’s ready to settle down calls you when he wants to see you, texts you when he’s thinking about you. The guy who just wants to have fun feels a little more guarded when it comes to communicating and hanging out.

14. The guy who’s ready to settle down has heard about your baggage and doesn’t care. The guy who just wants to have fun has no clue whether or not you have any baggage because you guys don’t talk about that stuff.

15. The guy who’s ready to settle down has made a sincere effort to have more of an adult lifestyle – learning how to cook, working on his apartment, regularly doing laundry. The guy who just wants to have fun is more of a “let’s hang out on the makeshift sofa and order a pizza” kind of guy.

16. The guy who’s ready to settle down knows how to balance time between you and his friends. The guy who just wants to have fun is more about hanging out with his buddies and trying to see you when he has time, usually on the weekends.

17. The guy who’s ready to settle down is tired of the same old late-night bar scene. The guy who just wants to have fun can’t get enough of it.

18. The guy who’s ready to settle down is not afraid to be vulnerable around you. The guy who just wants to have fun feels way more comfortable being silly and fun with you and nothing more. TC mark

Kim Quindlen

I'm a staff writer for Thought Catalog. I like comedy and improv. I live in Chicago. My Uber rating is just okay.

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