17 Struggles Of Being The Blunt Person In Your Friend Group

Gossip Girl
Gossip Girl

1. People ask for your advice on everything, even if it’s something you know nothing about. They say it’s because they know you’ll be honest with them. And then, when you are honest with them, they usually get annoyed.

2. Nothing bores you more than obligatory small talk. You die a little on the inside when you have to talk about your job or where you’re from while you’re at a cocktail party. Because you’d much rather be talking about something real and interesting.

3. Sometimes your friends tease you about coming off as a little too straightforward, but really, it’s just that you don’t like being fake.

4. When a new person comes to hang out with you guys, your friends usually introduce you by saying something like “Don’t be scared. She/he doesn’t bite. Hahaha!”

5. And you’re just like… “No.”

6. You get really uneasy around highly sensitive people. It feels like you have to walk around on egg shells, which makes you feel like you can’t really be yourself.

7. Pretty much half of your life revolves around saying, “Relax, I’m just kidding!” if you tease your sensitive friend and they take it too seriously. You can’t count the number of times you’ve had to turn something harmless you said into a joke if someone was offended by it.

8. You’re always forced to go shopping. Even if you hate it. Because you’re the only one who will tell your friend that the pants she picked out look like someone vomited mustard.

9. If somebody got ridiculously drunk the night before but no one wants to say anything, all of your friends will just awkwardly look away and refuse to make eye contact until you are forced to be the one who yells at the drunkard for being an idiot last night.

10. Your friends love trying to set you up with other people by saying “they’re mean too!”

11. …No matter how many times you tell them that a) that’s harsh and b) opposites attract.

12. Your friends point out that you have tell-tale signs when you like or dislike someone, and that they don’t make any sense. When you like someone, you’re usually relaxed and sarcastic around them. When you dislike someone or feel uncomfortable around them, you’re usually more quiet and have to work really hard on being polite so you don’t offend them.

13. People love to joke around about how you’re mean, but they often forget that being blunt and being mean are two completely different things.

14. Your friends love to call you out in front of new people if you’re being polite. But they forget that you’re only incredibly blunt around your friends, not strangers. And you’re never blunt just for the sake of being mean.

15. People assume that being blunt means you hate everything, when that’s not the truth at all. It’s just that you’re not afraid to admit when you don’t like something.

16. When you really do like something, such as your friend’s wedding dress, you have to be overly enthusiastic so that they actually understand that you like it, and they don’t think you’re just being sarcastic or saying it to make them feel better.

17. Lots of people think of you as blunt. You prefer honestTC mark

Kim Quindlen

I'm a staff writer for Thought Catalog. I like comedy and improv. I live in Chicago. My Uber rating is just okay.

This is me letting you go

If there’s one thing we all need to stop doing, it’s waiting around for someone else to show up and change our lives. Just be the person you’ve been waiting for.

At the end of the day, you have two choices in love – one is to accept someone just as they are and the other is to walk away.

We owe it to ourselves to live the greatest life that we’re capable of living, even if that means that we have to be alone for a very long time.

“Everyone could use a book like this at some point in their life.” – Heather

Let go now

More From Thought Catalog

Does struggling with your skin condition feel like being stuck in a toxic relationship?

Coping with a skin condition like Hidradenitis Suppurativa can wreak havoc on your life, much like toxic relationships. It can be obsessive, affect your sleep, performance, and family. It can feel like a draining internal and external battle.

Understand the Patterns
17 Struggles Of Being The Blunt Person In Your Friend Group is cataloged in , , , , , ,
  • https://thoughtcatalog.com/crissy-milazzo/2015/03/17-small-tragedies-that-will-definitely-happen-when-you-work-in-an-office/ 17 Small Tragedies That Will Definitely Happen When You Work In An Office | Thought Catalog

    […] } else if ( document.attachEvent ) { document.attachEvent( 'onreadystatechange', func ); } } )(); Read this: 17 Struggles Of Being The Blunt Person In Your Friend Group Read this: 12 Movie Sex Scenes That Are Better Than Porn Read this: 21 Thoughts You Have Daily If […]

  • http://shodfembiz.com shodfem

    Reblogged this on shodfem's Blog.

  • https://thoughtcatalog.com/crissy-milazzo/2015/03/8-things-you-have-when-you-have-no-real-job-experience/ 8 Things You Have When You Think You Have No ‘Real’ Job Experience | Thought Catalog

    […] Read this: 17 Struggles Of Being The Blunt Person In Your Friend Group Read this: 18 Age-Old Drinking Wisdoms All Real Women Follow Read this: 17 Small Tragedies That Will Definitely Happen When You Work In An Office […]

  • https://thoughtcatalog.com/crissy-milazzo/2015/03/8-unexpectedly-crucial-things-that-help-you-kill-it-in-the-future/ 8 Unexpectedly Crucial Things That Help You Kill It In The Future | Thought Catalog

    […] Read this: 17 Struggles Of Being The Blunt Person In Your Friend Group Read this: 18 Age-Old Drinking Wisdoms All Real Women Follow Read this: 17 Small Tragedies That Will Definitely Happen When You Work In An Office […]

  • https://thoughtcatalog.com/kim-quindlen/2015/03/heres-the-real-reason-why-womens-menstrual-cycles-sync-up/ Here’s The Real Reason Why Women’s Menstrual Cycles Sync Up | Thought Catalog

    […] Read this: 17 Struggles Of Being The Blunt Person In Your Friend Group Read this: 19 Contradictory Things About Modern Dating That Make It So Difficult Read this: 14 Signs You’re In A Jim-And-Pam Relationship Cataloged in […]

  • https://thoughtcatalog.com/kimquindlen/2015/03/22-undeniable-signs-that-youre-not-22-anymore/ 22 Undeniable Signs That You’re Not 22 Anymore | Thought Catalog

    […] Read this: 17 Struggles Of Being The Blunt Person In Your Friend Group Read this: Here’s The Real Reason Why Women’s Menstrual Cycles Sync Up Read this: 15 Things Ambitious Girls Do A Little Bit Differently When They’re Dating […]

  • http://nigeriatechnology.com/22-undeniable-signs-that-youre-not-22-anymore/ 22 Undeniable Signs That You’re Not 22 Anymore - NEWS | Phones | Nigeria Science | Technology |Computers

    […] Read this: 17 Struggles Of Being The Blunt Person In Your Friend Group Read this: Here’s The Real Reason Why Women’s Menstrual Cycles Sync Up Read this: 15 Things Ambitious Girls Do A Little Bit Differently When They’re Dating […]

  • http://theavidwave.wordpress.com keels

    Reblogged this on theavidwave.

  • https://thoughtcatalog.com/kim-quindlen/2015/03/19-things-only-chronically-late-people-understand/ 19 Things Only Chronically Late People Understand | Thought Catalog

    […] Read this: 17 Struggles Of Being The Blunt Person In Your Friend Group Read this: Here’s The Real Reason Why Women’s Menstrual Cycles Sync Up Read this: 22 Undeniable Signs That You’re Not 22 Anymore Cataloged in […]

  • https://thoughtcatalog.com/kim-quindlen/2015/03/21-ways-you-know-hes-a-genuinely-good-guy/ 21 Ways You Know He’s A Genuinely Good Guy | Thought Catalog

    […] Read this: 17 Struggles Of Being The Blunt Person In Your Friend Group Read this: Here’s The Real Reason Why Women’s Menstrual Cycles Sync Up Read this: 19 Things Only Chronically Late People Understand Cataloged in […]

  • http://alexisdcraig.wordpress.com alexisdcraig

    Reblogged this on Alexis D Craig, Author and commented:
    Good Lord! This is exactly me

  • https://thoughtcatalog.com/johanna-mort/2015/03/19-times-danny-castellano-was-the-cranky-old-man-we-all-secretly-are/ 19 Times Danny Castellano Was The Cranky Old Man We All Secretly Are | Thought Catalog

    […] this: 23 Times Nick Miller Completely Understands Life As A Twenty-Something Read this: 17 Struggles Of Being The Blunt Person In Your Friend Group Read this: 19 Reasons Boxers Are Actually The Worst Type Of Dogs To Live With thumbnail image […]

  • http://dcislove.wordpress.com Claire Lardizabal

    Reblogged this on live from the missourian and commented:
    I’d rather be honest than fake.

  • https://thoughtcatalog.com/johanna-mort/2015/03/14-ways-to-know-youre-an-optimistic-pessimist/ 14 Ways To Know You’re An Optimistic Pessimist | Thought Catalog

    […] Read this: 17 Struggles Of Being The Blunt Person In Your Friend Group Read this: 12 Things Anxious People Worry About While At A Friend’s House Read this: 18 Moments That Prove Larry David Should Be King Of The World Cataloged in […]

  • https://thoughtcatalog.com/johanna-mort/2015/03/19-things-only-nocturnal-people-understand/ 19 Things Only Nocturnal People Understand | Thought Catalog

    […] this: 18 Moments That Prove Larry David Should Be King Of The World Read this: 17 Struggles Of Being The Blunt Person In Your Friend Group Read this: 23 Excuses Every Homebody Needs For Getting Out Of Social Situations Cataloged […]

  • https://thoughtcatalog.com/johanna-mort/2015/03/dating-in-college-vs-after-youve-moved-back-home/ Dating In College Vs. After You’ve Moved Back Home | Thought Catalog

    […] this: 25 Dirty Things You Can Say To Make Anyone Want To Have Sex With You Read this: 17 Struggles Of Being The Blunt Person In Your Friend Group Read this: 15 Times Ted Mosby Perfectly Summed Up What It’s Like To Be Optimistically Single […]

  • https://thoughtcatalog.com/kim-quindlen/2015/03/how-to-accept-that-your-eyebrows-will-never-be-on-fleek/ How To Accept That Your Eyebrows Will Never Be On Fleek | Thought Catalog

    […] this: Here’s The Real Reason Why Women’s Menstrual Cycles Sync Up Read this: 17 Struggles Of Being The Blunt Person In Your Friend Group Read this: 15 Things Ambitious Girls Do A Little Bit Differently When They’re Dating Cataloged […]

blog comments powered by Disqus