If She’s Worth Having, She’s Worth Fighting For


This one’s for you fellows out there, the guys who had the perfect girl, and for some stupid reason decided to let her go.

Let me guess.

“The timing isn’t right.”
“You’re not in a good position in life to commit to someone else.”
“You’re trying to focus on your career right now.”

Maybe you just are not ready to commit because “you’ve been hurt in the past.”

Oh you silly, silly boy.

Here’s the thing: relationships rarely happen an ideal moment in our lives. Honestly, there is no such thing as the “right” moment; the greatest things come to us when we are not prepared or expecting them.

There are theories out there that believe you’ll find the right person at a time when you’re not looking for love. Mrs. Right isn’t going to show up at your doorstep when you’re sitting around waiting for her. She’s going to burst into your world at a moment when your life is full-blown chaos. She is going to come barging in and shake up your universe even more.

Good things never come to us at the ideal time. They come to us when we are least expecting them, adding to the madness of it all. Who know why this is, it’s just how this world works.

So yes, the timing probably isn’t ideal. It is likely you are not ready for a relationship. Oh, and congrats on the job promotion.

But letting go of “the one” just because of imperfect circumstances is just plain foolish. Stop with the excuses and fight for your woman.

Face it; a girl worth having it will not sit around waiting forever. Once you find her, hold on tight and never let her go.

If you do, she is going to move on and find someone else, a guy who will actually fight for her. He will be able to give her everything you should have. I’m confident in saying the moment you see her with someone else, you’ll realize the magnitude of your mistake. You’ll kick yourself and wish you had fought harder for her.

Speaking from the girl’s perspective, all we want is for you to love and care for us. Prove we are worth battling for. Fight for us, instead of with us. We just want someone who we can wake up with every morning and make us feel beautiful.

Quite frankly, we aren’t asking for too much. Just be honest and faithful, and the rest will fall into place. Just love us for everything we are, and we will change your entire world.

Sadly, so many girls in this world already feel unloved and unwanted.

Imagine how it feels to have the person you love, not desire you back. The rejection of the situation is beyond painful. It’s heartbreaking how many amazing girls do not feel beautiful or worthy.

Please, stop with the excuses and bullshit.

In the end, you are only hurting yourself.

So get up, and battle for the women you love. Don’t let her go, because you will be the only one left with remorse. Not only should you do this for her, do it for you.

Because, who wants to live a life full of heartbreak and regret? Thought Catalog Logo Mark

About the author

Kiana Azizian

Graduate of University of Oregon. Professional wandered and avid coffee drinker.

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