There are many, many ways to experience pleasure and connection.
Giving empathy requires more listening than replying. Your presence is more important than your insight.
We’re taught that our value to others is to fix their problems, give advice, or cheer them up. But when we offer advice before connecting with someone’s feelings, we can leave that person feeling unheard.
Sometimes it’s worth it to take a greater vulnerability risk (the cross-country move, the “I love you”), but making the regular practice of taking small steps helps strengthen that vulnerability muscle.
“Did you have any victories you want to share?”
It helps you connect more deeply to the people you love.
Often, the best way to help someone is not to make them feel “better,” but to help them feel “lighter.”
The point isn’t the scale of your adventure; the point is the regular practice of nurturing an adventure habit.
Don’t assume you know what someone else is feeling – ask and be gently curious instead.
Human bodies are wired differently and even though we have the same basic parts, the way we like those parts stimulated varies tremendously.