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5 Myths Of The White Guy-Asian Woman Phenomenon

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It is no secret that there is a fair amount of fornicating between white America men and Asian women and there are no signs of this trend slowing down. It’s hard to go out in a large American city nowadays and not see a white guy holding hands with an Asian girl. It’s even getting to the point where people aren’t even surprised anymore if I tell them that my girl is Asian. They usually just look at me as if I’ve been infected with an incurable disease known as Yellow Fever. Over the years, I’ve also realized that there is a great deal of misinformation surrounding the whole Western guy-Asian girl tango.

1. Creepy old white guy with young Asian bride image.

This image has to stop. Not only is it inaccurate, it’s dumb, redundant, and annoying. While it is true there are old white, Western guys who take on younger brides from the less developed parts of China, Thailand, and the Philippines, this certainly is not the norm. Just spend some time at an American university and you will see a lot of young white guys holding hands with Japanese, Korean or Chinese girls. The vast majority of white guy-Asian girl relationships are young couples in their 20s and 30s. Most of the Asian girls that go with American men are from ultra-modern, affluent, and developed parts of East Asia. So please stop categorizing every white guy who hooks up with an Asian women as some old, creepy dude.

2. It is only a white guy-Asian girl thing.

The idea that this is strictly a white guy-Asian girl thing is absurd and based in racism. I am sorry to all you sisters out there, but the reality is that all Western men are attracted to Asian women. Historically speaking, it has been more likely to see a white guy with a girl from Tokyo, Seoul, or Shanghai due to socioeconomic factors and racism on the part of Asian mothers and fathers. However, that is changing. In reality, there are lots of Asian women that have a thing for black, Middle Eastern, or Hispanic guys and vice-versa. When I lived in Japan, the biggest playboys that I knew were black American males.

3. Western men like Asian girls because they are “submissive” and “weak.”

This is another ridiculous assumption propagated by Western liberal feminists. At the end of the day, a woman is a woman and a man is a man. I don’t care what culture they come from. Asian girls that date Western guys are not submissive as they are portrayed, nor are they weak. Now, there are definitely some submissive women to be found in parts of Asia, but they are not the ones dating Western men. The Asian women who date Western men reject their own chauvinistic men in favor of the more equal-minded Western ones. While these same girls may appear submissive and weak to the perception of the Western women, I can tell you from experience that they are strong and independent. The difference is that they are polite, respectful, and drama-free in contrast to their Western female counterparts. They also tend to be more feminine in their appearance and take better care of themselves. However, this is not because they are submissive.

4. Western men date Asian girls because they can’t get a REAL WOMAN.

This is another misguided assumption based out of pure ignorance. OK, are there some really nerdy Western guys that marry an equally awkward Chinese or Japanese girl? Absolutely. Stereotypes exist for a reason. There is a bit of truth to them. In reality, the majority of Western guys that go with Asian women are just normal dudes. Some of the coolest guys I’ve ever met had Asian girlfriends or wives. Personally, I do not like anime or Star Wars. I love to camp, build fires, BBQ, play sports, pound beers, and live life. I have no problem talking to women nor attracting them. On top of that, let me loose on the basketball court and I will destroy you with an almost unstoppable turnaround jumper. So if you want to label every Western guy with an Asian girl as some socially inept nerd, you need to reexamine reality.

5. Asian women are just after a green card and money.

Are there Asian girls out there that marry Western guys for a green card or money? Of course there are. We live in a corrupt global capitalistic system. Are there white women who marry wealthy white men for their money? Absolutely. In reality, the vast majority of Asian women are not after a green card or money. If that were the case, you would see about double the amount of Asian girls with Western guys, which might cause some of your heads to explode. The reality is that people fall in love. When you fall in love, citizenships, visas, and cultural differences take a backseat. Besides, there are plenty of Western men living in Asia with their Asian wives whom they initially met in the United States, Canada, or the UK. If it’s about a green card, then why do so many Asian girls bring their Western boyfriends or husbands to Asia?

My intention is not to offend anyone, but I am speaking from experience. I would like to hear what others have to say on this subject, so please leave a comment. TC mark

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      I felt like that was a fair perspective to take. Underlying your list of frustrations in interracial dating, it seems, is the same thing that plagues not just Asian men, but so many others. Straight up lazy stereotyping. If you can respect the sensitive racial construct in which your partnership takes place, appreciate the gender dynamics and not exploit them, I have nothing respect for your love.

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