10 Signs You’re Not Over Your Ex (No Matter How Much You Want To Be)

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If you’re still sleeping with them, you shouldn’t need to read anything else to know that you’re definitely not over your ex.

However, there are some things that we do when it comes to our exes that indicate we aren’t as over them as we believe ourselves to be. The thing is, we just don’t realize it right away. Here are 10 signs you’re not over your ex. Let’s get into it!

1. You cyberstalk them daily.

You know exactly what I’m talking about. They are the first name in your recent searches on all of your social media platforms. You don’t check in on them though. You never reach out to them, but you keep up with their every move–or post.

2. You speak badly about them.

I can’t stand to hear someone speak badly about their ex. Yes, even if they cheated. At one point, that person was everything to you and bad mouthing them only reflects on you and your choice of partner. To be frank, it makes you look bad.

3. You aren’t happy that they’re happy.

If you see that they get into a new relationship, you’re not happy for them. In most cases, you say that their new partner isn’t attractive or you find another way to make them look like less of a person than you are.

4. You don’t like to hear their name.

You can’t even stand the sound of their name without getting sad or upset. Just hearing their name brings memories rushing into your mind and in turn triggers your rash emotions.

5. You’ve disassociated yourself from the people you knew in common.

You’re unable to associate yourself with his family and friends. Most times, the people we meet through our ex will only preserve the memories you two shared together and remind you of them when they see you. If you’re not over your ex, this is hard to overcome. When you are over your ex, you don’t have any problem talking to or being around those people.

6. You’re not open to new relationship opportunities.

You’re completely turned off by the thought of another relationship. You ignore the people who hit on you. Some might argue, but I think holding yourself back from the opportunity to date again is a way of saying,”just in case they come back.”

7. You compare the potential of a new relationship to the one you were in with them.

Not only are you not open to talking to that beautiful person who hit on you earlier, but you’re bitter and negative about the thought of a new relationship simply based on the results of your last one. Every chance you get, you justify your reasons for why you won’t get into anything new by comparing it to things that happened with your ex.

8. You’re still holding onto relationship memorabilia.

I truly believe that the greatest memories are kept in the heart. If you can’t part with the tangible items, you’re probably not over them.

9. You constantly verbalize that you’re over them.

The only person who believes you when you say that you’re over your ex is you. If you were really over your ex, your actions would say that for you. No one would question it and you definitely wouldn’t have to tell anybody that you’re over them.

10. You can’t see yourself being friends with them—ever.

Being friends with your ex is not a bad thing. In fact, when you’re truly over your ex, it’s a good thing to be friends with them. If you cannot fathom being friends with your ex at all, it’s safe to say that your heart is still healing. If they still bring about ill feelings for you, your heart has not yet coped with the fact that you two aren’t together anymore.

If you’re experiencing any of the above signs, just give it time. You can get over them. It’ll take some time, but I promise you it’s possible. Hang in there! Thought Catalog Logo Mark


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