Holly Riordan

Don’t go too long without taking a break. Don’t burn yourself out. Don’t procrastinate when it comes to slowing down and giving yourself a rest. Remember that you don’t have to earn your breaks. You already deserve them.

Your accomplishments aren’t tied to your worth. Even though you care deeply about your creative work, it has nothing to do with your own personal value.

You never feel appreciated. You do so much for them, but they never say thank you. They never remind you how wonderful it is to have you in their life.

You’re allowed to be heartbroken. You don’t need to date someone to develop strong feelings for them. Knowing that you’re never going to be with this person is going to sting. You’re allowed to cry your eyes out.

You are under no obligation to spend time with relatives who make you uncomfortable.

Getting ghosted sucks because you have no idea what you’ve done wrong. You’re left with lingering questions that are never going to be answered.

You don’t want to waste years of your life chasing after the wrong person. If they don’t see your worth from the start, they probably aren’t worth your energy. You should move on.

When you’re a quiet girl, others are surprised when you speak your mind. They’re shocked to learn that they are unable to take advantage of you. They thought you were nice — and to them, nice means a pushover.

Some people are never going to treat you right. No matter how hard you try to impress certain people, there are humans who are never going to change. They are never going to love you the way you deserve.

It’s hard to put your mental health first. Even if you’re trying to treat yourself with more kindness, even if you’re putting effort into becoming a healthier person, there are going to be obstacles in your way.

“This is my anxious mind speaking.” When you’re anxious, acknowledge it.

Don’t trick yourself into believing you’re unlovable because someone ended a relationship with you. You could dwell on the fact that they walked away, that they decided you weren’t what they needed — but that’s not the whole story.

Even though you want to succeed, even though you have big dreams for yourself, you don’t want to push yourself so hard that you burn out.

You might feel bad about yourself because you’re always the one who cares more. You keep getting trapped in one-sided relationships where you offer so much more than you’re given in return.

They want to spend every second of their time with you. Early on in the relationship, this might feel romantic. Especially since you want to spend as much time with them as possible, too.

People who refuse to tell you the full story. If someone refuses to give you a direct answer whenever you ask question, you’re never going to know what to think.

There’s no way to guarantee that you’ll find love. But you’ll have a much better chance if you’re doing these six things: You’re being honest with yourself (and the people around you) about your emotions.

Stay single until you find someone who appreciates all the sweet gestures you do throughout the relationship.