Putting effort into your relationship also means making sure your own mental health is okay. It means putting effort into taking care of yourself. It means putting yourself high on your list of priorities.
It’s ridiculous to expect yourself to have your whole life together in your twenties. Your twenties are for discovering yourself. They’re for making mistakes. They’re for growing into a better, stronger version of yourself. You’re not supposed to be complete yet. You’re supposed to be a work in progress.
You walk around like you’re confident. You call yourself a hot mess like it’s a badge of honor. But deep down, you’re worried you’re unlovable.
You don’t have to rearrange your morals, your standards, and your expectations in order to make room for someone in your world.
It sucks when you feel like a disappointment. Like a failure. Like a fuckup.
When you care about someone, don’t worry about appearing clingy or needy or overemotional. Don’t hold back the way you’re feeling out of fear it won’t be reciprocated. Don’t stay inside of your comfort zone. Break out and take risks. Embrace the unknown. Be more spontaneous, more adventurous. Stop playing it so safe.
Time isn’t going to stop because you’re in a bad mood.
You should celebrate the fact that you’ve gone a few days without engaging with anyone toxic. That you’ve gone a few weeks without falling back into your bad habits. That you’ve gone a few months treating yourself with more kindness than in the past.
I don’t have to worry about impressing you anymore. I don’t have to worry about chasing after you anymore. I don’t have to worry about trying to be enough anymore.
Libra: Even though 2019 didn’t treat you kindly, 2020 is going to be a time of healing for you. It’s going to give you the opportunity to rebuild. It’s going to remind you that you aren’t a failure, you aren’t a lost cause, you aren’t falling behind.