Don’t Expect Me To Be There For You When You Were Never There For Me

Girl who is not going to be there for you
Unsplash / Taylor Bryant

Don’t text me at the last second and expect me to come running.

Don’t assume that I am going to answer you the second you call.

Don’t expect me to be there for you when you were never there for me.

Don’t expect me to put my full effort into our relationship when you were never willing to do the same. Don’t expect me to give 100% when you never give me half of that. Don’t expect me to do all of the work while you sit there and do nothing.

I am not going to feel guilty for leaving you high and dry when you need my help because there are times when I needed you and you failed to show your face. I am not going to feel guilty about abandoning you because you have done the same thing to me time and time again. You have hurt me. Disappointed me. Lied to my face. Ran behind my back.

There were times when you could have been there but you chose to leave instead. There were times when you could have stayed but you chose to do the easiest thing for you and the worst thing for me.

You have done unforgivable things that I keep trying to justify to myself — but there is no sense in only one person trying. If you don’t care about me, then I am going to stop caring about you. If you don’t want to put effort into this relationship, then I am not going to put in effort either.

You can’t possibly expect me to keep treating you with respect when you never return the favor. You can’t expect me to continue treating you like a first priority when you have made it clear I am only a backup plan to you. You can’t expect me to be nice to you when you are this horrible to me.

I am a generous person, the kind of person who gives out second and third chances — but I am not going to let myself get taken advantage of anymore. I am not going to let you continue to walk over me. I am not going to let you use me. I am not going to let you have your way while I am stuck crying my eyes out every night.

I have been accommodating so far, but from now on, don’t expect me to answer when you call at midnight.

Don’t expect me to listen to your problems when you never listen to mine.

Don’t expect me to answer your texts when you can’t answer mine.

Don’t expect me to be there for you when you were never there for me. Don’t assume that I will stick around when you have given me no reason to keep holding on.

Don’t think that I am stupid enough to put up with your bullshit without walking away. Don’t assume that you have it made with me because I will never stand up for myself. Don’t assume that I belong to you, because I am finally learning that it is time to leave.

It is time for me to raise my standards. It is time for me to say goodbye forever. TC mark

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