This Is What ‘Boyfriend Material’ Means Because It’s More Than Being A Good Guy

A Good Guy Who Is Boyfriend Material
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Boyfriend material means that you are someone she can imagine spending lazy weekends with on the couch. Someone who she can picture taking to the grocery store and bringing to holiday dinners — instead of someone who is only around to party with and sleep with. Instead of someone who is clearly only interested in having casual fun.

Boyfriend material means you are mature enough to handle a real relationship. You are able to have adult conversations and come to compromises instead of whining until you get your way or abandoning her when things get hard. You are responsible, someone who has her back, someone who she can always rely on.

Boyfriend material means that you are someone she can trust. Someone who stops flirting the second you enter a relationship. Someone she never has to worry about coming home late from work without a phone call or texting exes without letting her know. Someone she believes will be honest and authentic, even when the truth sucks.

Boyfriend material means you treat her like a priority. You take her out on actual dates instead of asking her over at the last second to make out and then kick her out. You invite her to hang out with your friends as a group instead of telling her you’re too busy to see her that week. You set plans with her in advance instead of using her as a backup plan.

Boyfriend material means that you are someone she can take home to her parents. Someone she doesn’t have to lecture in the car before walking inside so you remember that you can’t drink in front of them and you can’t curse in front of them and you can’t be yourself in front of them. Someone that her parents will love, or grow to love, just the way you are because you are a genuinly good guy who clearly cares for their daughter.

Boyfriend material means that you make her feel. You can make her pulse race with a kiss. You can make her laugh hard from some stupid joke. And you can soothe her back into a relaxed state when she cries. You have a strong connection, the kind that can’t be forced.

Boyfriend material means that she doesn’t have to put on a mask to impress you. She can be herself without worrying about what you think. She can wear her sweatpants and spill salsa all over her lap and you will still like her. Little things aren’t going to change your opinion of her because your feelings for her are more than superficial.

Boyfriend material means that you are both on the same page about what you want from the relationship, and from life as a whole. It means that you are working towards the same milestones. It means that, even though you have different personalities, you have similar mindsets.

Boyfriend material means that she really likes you and is confident you like her too. It means that she can imagine a future with you. A future that might last forever. TC mark

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