50 Promises To Make To Each Other This Valentine’s Day That Will Strengthen Your Relationship More Than Any Gift

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1. I promise to genuinely try to understand your point of view when we disagree, before counteracting it with my own.

2. I promise to not keep score in our relationship, no matter how badly one of us screws up.

3. I promise to keep striving to be a better version of myself every day, no matter how happy I am in our relationship.

4. I promise to always know your coffee order, and exactly how it changes with the seasons.

5. I promise to forgive you for the times when you are not yourself and it affects the way we interact with each other.

6. I promise to remind you that I love you, even on the days when I don’t like you.

7. I promise to be honest about what’s not working for me in this relationship, even when it’s uncomfortable to bring up.

8. I promise to never make you guess at my feelings, even if it means giving up a bit of control.

9. I promise to make a genuine effort with your friends and family, no matter how different we are from one another.

10. I promise to be open to and inspired by our differences, rather than solely frustrated by them.

11. I promise not to hold onto bitterness or resentment after agreeing to make a compromise for the sake of our relationship.

12. I promise to be big enough to admit when I’m wrong.

13. I promise to like a solid 80% of what you post on social media, even if most of it is selfies.

14. I promise not to judge you on the choices you have made in the past, even if they still affect your present.

15. I promise to understand your needs and how they differ from my own, so that I can love you in the ways that don’t come naturally to me.

16. I promise to consciously, deliberately choose you when temptation comes my way.

17. I promise to talk openly with you about boundaries and lines so that we don’t venture into grey areas that hurt each other.

18. I promise to kiss you even you have bad breath sometimes.

19. I promise to respect that you will sometimes have projects or commitments that you have to put ahead of our relationship.

20. I promise to maintain my own set of projects and commitments that allow me to thrive outside of our relationship.

21. I promise to agree on that stupid movie that you want to watch, at least 50% of the time.

22. I promise to take an interest in the activities you enjoy, even if they terrify or bore me.

23. I promise to constantly think of new ways to make you happy, no matter how long we have been together and how comfortable we become.

24. I promise not to take you for granted when I’m lost or reeling and you are the person I lean on.

25. I promise to let you lean on me during the times when you are not at your best.

26. I promise to laugh at all the horrible dad jokes your dad makes, even if you just roll your eyes.

27. I promise to keep most of the embarrassing secrets that I know about you, even if I’m drunk and they would make a good story.

28. I promise to stay late at boring work events with you when you are trying to impress your boss and colleagues.

29. I promise not to resent you during the times when you are personally or professionally thriving and I am not.

30. I promise to be compassionate during the times when I am personally or professionally thriving and you are not.

31. I promise to listen to you tell the same story at least 4-7 times before I gently remind you that if you tell me one more time I’ll go mad.

32. I promise to pretend to like most of what you cook, unless you try to make something that is genuinely disgusting a regular meal.

33. I promise to push you to be a better version of yourself during the times when you’re not realizing your potential.

34. I promise to accept that you will push me when I am not reaching my own potential.

35. I promise to fight fair with you and to not make a difference of opinion into a personal attack.

36. I promise to accept that we will both inevitably screw up and need to be the biggest, hugest versions of ourselves to get past it.

37. I promise to occasionally splurge on something impractical purely because it will make you happy.

38. I promise to let you grow in any way you want or need to.

39. I promise to make time for you when too many things are simultaneously demanding my attention.

40. I promise to always be on your team when the world is riling against you.

41. I promise not to push you off my own team when I’m scared or stressed out and my natural impulse is to retreat.

42. I promise to let your body change in any way it might and to love you just the same in any form.

43. I promise to never stop poking fun of you, or at us, or at myself because it we cannot laugh with each other we are doomed.

44. I promise to make the active decision to trust you, every day for as long as I have you.

45. I promise to never stop appreciating the pure, adulterated awesomeness of the fact that I get to see your naked body on a regular basis.

46. I promise to appreciate the skills you bring to the relationship that I completely and utterly lack.

47. I promise to always be proud of you, even when you are not necessarily proud of yourself.

48. I promise to find a new reason every day to fall even more in love with you.

49. I promise to never stop trying to win you over, no matter how many months or years or lifetimes we spend together.

50. I promise to always love you in a way that makes you feel free. TC mark

This is me letting you go

If there’s one thing we all need to stop doing, it’s waiting around for someone else to show up and change our lives. Just be the person you’ve been waiting for.

At the end of the day, you have two choices in love – one is to accept someone just as they are and the other is to walk away.

We owe it to ourselves to live the greatest life that we’re capable of living, even if that means that we have to be alone for a very long time.

“Everyone could use a book like this at some point in their life.” – Heather

Let go now

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  • http://mymoneycountsdotorg.wordpress.com Pamela

    These are great promises, but we should strive and be reminded of this always, not just on Valentines day.

  • https://brenicojayblog.wordpress.com/2016/02/11/50-promises-to-make-to-each-other-this-valentines-day-that-will-strengthen-your-relationship-more-than-any-gift/ 50 Promises To Make To Each Other This Valentine’s Day That Will Strengthen Your Relationship More Than Any Gift – Lifestyle Writing
  • http://thestrayrussianblue.wordpress.com chiharumon

    well said, Pamela :)

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