Ella Ceron

You regularly dream about the days when you didn’t have to think about what to wear in the morning.

Everything is going great, you think — you have chemistry, you click, you have shared interests and your conversations never lull — and then, boom. He’s gone.

We decided to sit down and ask each other everything you’ve wanted to ask your best friend of the opposite sex… but haven’t. The caveat? We had to answer with complete honesty.

You know, all along, that this is someone with a heart in shards, a soul in pieces, and little affection and warmth and stability to give you — you won’t blame them for it, they need all the resources they can give themselves — yet you still try.

“Well, I wouldn’t get that.”

We decided to sit down and ask each other a few key questions about the pros and cons of dating someone on the opposite spectrum.

It’s not that you’re overtly looking to doom your relationship, either, but sometimes, going with the flow is counterproductive to actually getting anywhere.

You were the classmate they never passed that note to. The coworker they never chased because they feared the taboo of dating in the workplace. The friend of a friend. The friend’s ex, and therefore coded as off-limits forever.

Start saying: “If there’s love enough in this world that all of these couples are making their relationships work, there’s got to be something out there for me, too.”

Texting you that their plans fell through and if they could hang, only to spring “good, because I’m around the corner” when you say okay.

Say no when you really want to say no.

There are more sports bras than regular bras in any given load of laundry. At all times.