Everyone tells you that marriage is hard, and in many ways it truly is—it tests you and sometimes it breaks you down—but guess what? Marriage is also SUPER RAD, and I think more married people need to go around telling that truth.
Being married means you get to spend every day with your best friend. You get to learn more about that person and grow with and from them. You get to become a better human being, and you get to experience life with your partner right there by your side.
Even though I’ve only been married for 6 months, I think my husband and I have been dealt a crazy hand, which has taught us a lot, so here are some of the awesome (and not so awesome) things I’ve learned about marriage this far.
1. You always have someone to binge-watch shows with.
2. But consequently you always have someone to argue about what show you both are going to binge-watch.
3. Having good communication truly works wonders when you get into arguments.
4. Being intentional with your time is extremely important.
5. Scheduling dates is a must!
6. Sometimes you’ll get into pretty mundane routines, so changing things up every once in awhile helps.
7. Talking openly to other married friends about your problems is extremely beneficial. It’s nice to hear that they have similar problems, and then you can get advice about what they do to solve things.
8. Having money talks regularly is pretty dreadful, but it helps to be on the same page.
9. You have your own personal masseuse.
10. But marriage is about give and take, so be prepared for your spouse to ask for a massage too.
11. Being married makes you realize how selfish and stubborn you are. Marriage doesn’t allow any room for those kinds of qualities.
12. Saving money is difficult and taxing, but it’s nice to have a cushion.
13. Being married really does change you for the better, but you have to be willing to actually work on changing.
14. Reading about and understanding the five love languages really helps – especially because most couples give and receive love in different ways.
15. Sometimes you’ll schedule sex. And that’s okay.
16. Every so often you’ll be tight on money and that means staying home. Not always fun, but necessary.
17. Finding time to schedule a meet-up with friends once you’re married might be difficult, but it’s beneficial for both of you.
18. Preparing meals ahead of time makes life easier. Microwaves are seriously a godsend. Just heat it up and you’re ready to go!
19. Budget. Budget. Budget.
20. Make sure you have at least a few designated chores. It makes house cleanup and maintenance a breeze.
21. Cleaning and doing laundry suck, so remember to take turns.
22. You’re going to argue about stupid, little things, but just remember that it’s not you and your spouse against each other. It’s you and your spouse against the argument. Work together to figure out how to mend the situation.
23. Once you’re married, you will get baby fever, and you will be asked at least once a week by someone when you’ll be having a baby.
24. Have a money jar or separate bank account for adventures. Getting away every now and then is refreshing.
25. Eating out is easy and fun, but cooking food at home together is way cheaper and more rewarding.
26. Collect coupons. Groceries get expensive.
27. Money becomes sparse around the holidays, buying presents for both sides of the family, so make a list of what you want to get everyone and start your shopping a few months ahead.
28. Going to bed angry isn’t always the worst thing in the world. Sometimes it works better to have a clear head in the morning.
29. Continue to do things you do while you were dating. Love notes, flowers, etc. They keep the passion alive.
30. Say “I love you” every day. And mean it.