Last week, one man got the world talking by making an Instagram post about his wife — except, it’s not quite as simple as that.
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|| I love this woman and her curvy body. As a teenager, I was often teased by my friends for my attraction to girls on the thicker side, ones who were shorter and curvier, girls that the average (basic) bro might refer to as "chubby" or even "fat." Then, as I became a man and started to educate myself on issues such as feminism and how the media marginalizes women by portraying a very narrow and very specific standard of beauty (thin, tall, lean) I realized how many men have bought into that lie. For me, there is nothing sexier than this woman right here: thick thighs, big booty, cute little side roll, etc. Her shape and size won't be the one featured on the cover of Cosmopolitan but it's the one featured in my life and in my heart. There's nothing sexier to me than a woman who is both curvy and confident; this gorgeous girl I married fills out every inch of her jeans and is still the most beautiful one in the room. Guys, rethink what society has told you that you should desire. A real woman is not a porn star or a bikini mannequin or a movie character. She's real. She has beautiful stretch marks on her hips and cute little dimples on her booty. Girls, don't ever fool yourself by thinking you have to fit a certain mold to be loved and appreciated. There is a guy out there who is going to celebrate you for exactly who you are, someone who will love you like I love my Sarah. || photo cred: @kaileehjudd
Robbie Tripp wrote about falling in love with his “curvy” wife, claiming that her body type is not what is typically considered beautiful, but that he loved it either way.
“For me, there is nothing sexier than this woman right here: thick thighs, big booty, cute little side roll, etc.,” Robbie wrote. “Her shape and size won’t be the one featured on the cover of Cosmopolitan but it’s the one featured in my life and in my heart.”
That’s kind of sweet, right? Well, a lot of the Internet sure didn’t think so. In fact, it became a Twitter meme pretty damn quickly as everyone rushed to criticise the post.
People were pretty upset that some guy, who did nothing but say he was attracted to his own wife, was getting so much attention for it. While some news outlets were calling the post “heartwarming”, others were calling it a joke.
OK, so, I get it. Why should we applaud some dude for thinking his wife is hot? I mean, hopefully you think the person you marry is attractive one some level, and you shouldn’t have to prove it to the world. Not to mention the post itself makes it seem like we should see him as a hero for breaking away from idealized beauty standards to fall in love with someone who he believed didn’t fit them. It could definitely be construed as insulting and isn’t quite as progressive as he may think.
But put aside your cynicism for a moment. Is it the most feminist Instagram post in the world? No, probably not, despite what he wrote about being a feminist himself. But at the same time, it’s not exactly a toxic message to put out there. Sure, we shouldn’t applaud someone for “breaking the status quo” just because he married a woman who doesn’t fit certain beauty standards. But at the same time, I don’t think we should completely tear apart some dude for posting about it. Because honestly, who really cares? Why are we so concerned that this guy wants to talk about his attraction to his wife online on his own personal media site?
At the end of the day, Robbie was trying to spread a good message: that we shouldn’t care about what the media tells us we should want, and that we should love ourselves and others for who we are, not just how we look. Maybe all the people tearing his post apart already know that, but some people still need the reminder. In the end, it probably does more good than bad.
Do I love his post? Well, it’s not my favorite. But honestly, I’ve got better things to criticize.