1. Deciding that you have the power to change. I’m all about the power of thought and the fact that we’re all creators of our own experience. The day you decide you want to change something about your life is the first step of the journey.
2. When you choose to make your work what you’re passionate about. The bills have to be paid and you have to get dinner on the table somehow, I know. But if there’s anything you decide to do, please make your life work what you love to do most. You don’t have a career, you have a life. Live it.
3. When you make your own family. You decide who that consists of: biological family members, men, women, friends, spouses, lovers, kids, animals, whoever. Family is one of those things that I believe you can choose. And there are few things more important than your family. Whoever you choose them to be.
4. When you start living within your means. In many cases, not all, it’s just a simple issue of people who aren’t living within the means they earn. This does not apply to people living in poverty, obviously.
5. When you discover the simple things that make you happy, and make it a point to do them every day. I’ve always been taught that we have a base line level of happiness that we eventually revert to, regardless of what joy or sorrow we experience intermittently. The best way to change your life is to change the little daily routine things, the things that will up your base line of happiness.
6. When you choose to give your time and energy to others, and not just yourself. There is something unspeakably rewarding about servicing others. It tends to give your life a new sense of purpose, your being a reason other than just for itself.
7. When you work toward embracing what you can’t change. It will be a struggle, there’s no easy way to accomplish this. But imagine what could be if you took little steps toward doing so.
8. When you take the time to just stop and enjoy the moment you’re in. Isn’t it always about the next greatest thing that you’ll be happy once you have? Consider what you have now that you thought you’d be happy once you got.
9. When you love who you actually love. I know it’s a simple observation, but one day it just hit me that people aren’t always together because they love each other. There are a thousand different reasons people get (and stay) together and some of them can be the farthest thing from love. If this is your truth, change it. Go love who you actually love. If you don’t know who that is yet, keep living, they will come.
10. When you know you want a change, because it’s the first step in changing. Change won’t happen until it’s initiated by the self, and for the self. When you realize you want to have a better life, you are acknowledging your own self-worth.