You Have To Dig Yourself Out Of Your Rut Because No One Else Is Going To Do It For You

Allef Vinicius

I’ve been having full blown pity parties for myself lately. I complain, I cry, I throw a tantrum like I’m 2 years old. I say things I don’t mean, I talk about things I don’t understand, I write things that are contradicting. But the thing about these pity parties is – no one else shows up. It’s just me, all alone, crying to myself about my life.

I read an article by my coworker, Kendra Sydral, who has a lot more wisdom than me and is someone whom I deeply look up to.

Her post made me realize that literally no one cares if you feel like your life is falling apart, no one cares if you’re crying yourself to sleep, no one cares if you’re beating yourself up for your decisions and mistakes. It’s up to you to dig yourself out of the rut you’re in.

Life is hard, but it’s hard for all of us in different ways. It’s a constant journey to try to figure out who you are and who you want to be. It’s a constant journey to self-love and knowing what’s best for yourself. You will always, always question yourself, your life, your decisions, your relationships, your status. You will never just wake up and be okay with everything in your life because you’re constantly changing and growing, and the people around you are changing and growing, along with the rest of the world. It’s a never ending evolving process.

When you’re feeling down about parts of your life, when you want to throw the towel in and call it quits you have to realize that the only person you’re hurting in this situation is yourself.

Getting where you want to be isn’t easy, it takes a lot of hard work and dedication, that’s why not everyone is successful in self-love, in careers, with love, in relationships – you name it and someone, somewhere is struggling with it. Every aspect of our lives takes hard work and dedication to improve.

There is no final destination for relationships – marriage doesn’t guarantee that you’ll be happy and everything will work out for the rest of your lives. One good day of self-love doesn’t guarantee that it will now come naturally every day. You don’t get the promotion then get to start skipping on out work and slacking off. No. You keep working hard because there is no final destination.

If you want your life to get better you have to work hard for it. You have to pick yourself up and you have to inspire yourself to go after what you really want. No one really cares if you fail, well besides for maybe your parents, but other than them no one else really does.

People are to concerned with their own life, their own choices, their own success and their own happiness to help you take on your life problems on top of their own.

If you want your life to improve you have to be the one to wipe away your tears and start finding ways to improve it. You have to start finding things that fulfill you, start discovering who you are and start being your own biggest advocate to not lie down and surrender to life.

You have to be the one to dig yourself out of the rut you’re in or you’ll be stuck there forever. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

Insta with me

Keep up with Becca on Instagram, Twitter, Amazon and Website

More From Thought Catalog