I’m Done With Love And I’m Done Acting Like I’m Sorry About It

Brooke Cagel
Brooke Cagel

I’m done with love, I’m over the dating apps, I have no interest in the mind games, I really can’t be fucked to worry about if I’m double texting you because to be honest I really don’t care.

I’ve been single for a long time and the truth of the matter is I like being single, I choose to be single and I choose not to put myself out there too much because I don’t want to be someone’s other half.

I’m whole on my own, I feel confident in myself and my abilities to not need another human to lean on directly. I don’t want to slow things down, I don’t want to settle, I don’t want to take away from the things I want to do to make someone else happy. I have zero interest in that.

Worrying about finding love is a complete waste of time in my opinion. I’m over trying to figure out how to please someone who doesn’t give me any feedback because he’s too concerned with playing hard to get.

Like, do you want to hangout again? Or are you just saying that to be polite? Do you even like me or do you talk to every girl like this?

It’s constant questioning and overthinking because no one can give a straight answer these days.

I’m sick of living in this modern day dating world where everyone has to constantly figure out what the other person is thinking. No one can confess their feelings though because then it just makes you look desperate, a bit psycho and definitely clingy with a little mix of needy in there.

You can’t actually let them know what’s on your mind because that could be a huge turn off, but you definitely can’t act too emotional because no one likes someone who pours their heart out. You can’t be too loud, but you definitely can’t be too standoffish and you have to make a good impression on his friends or else you’re out. You have to be a little bit of this and a little bit of that, but not too much. You have to be funny, but you also have to be pretty and smart and nice, but not too nice because everyone likes a little rebellious side to them.

It’s literally fucked.

We live in a world where the more detached you are the more you fit in, the more appealing you seem because everyone really wants to ‘know what you’re about’ because you’re so ‘mysterious.’

I’m done with that.

I’m done with waiting for love, trying to find love, trying to create something out of nothing because being alone is ‘so bad.’

But what’s really bad is that we act like being single is the worst thing you can be. We act like being alone is like failing at life.

Stop trying to hook me up with someone, stop feeling bad for me because I’m single and stop trying to analyze me because I like being single.

I believe my life isn’t supposed to be settled in one spot with one person, it’s meant to be on the road. It’s meant to be lived for me, not for someone else. I have no interest in walking on eggshells trying to conform to someone else’s life because I’m scared to be alone because I’m truthfully not.

I’m not scared to be alone, I like to be alone, I like doing my own thing, leading my own path and making every decision for me. I can be selfish as hell or I can spend lots of time giving back, but either way I don’t have to worry about my decisions affecting someone else’s life.

I wasn’t put on this earth to conform to the standards of others, I was put on this earth to be me, to live up to my potential and be my own person and that’s exactly what I plan on doing.

I’m still young, I have a lot of life left ahead of me to live. So stop trying to fix me because I’m not broken, I just don’t care about love and I’m done pretending I do.

I’m not shutting the idea of love out, I’m simply done looking for something out of nothing. I’m done trying to show interest in someone because they show interest in me. I’m done thinking about boys who give zero thought to me.

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