1. I think he’s great, but not for me.
“He’s my best friend and as much as he means to me, he means it in a brotherly way. If we ever took our relationship to the next level I think it would ultimately ruin our friendship which I love so much.”
– Sarah, 24
2. No sexual attraction.
“There are just some people that I don’t feel a sexual attraction to, whether it be that I’m taller than them or they’re skinnier than me. Those are personal problems that I have with myself that I need to work past, but for now those are turn offs. He could be the best friend I could have asked for, but I’m still not sexually attracted because I’ll be too worried about it.”
— Kara, 25
3. He’s obnoxious.
“To me it’s not about appearance, it’s about his attitude. There is nothing more of a turn off than a guy who gets drunk and is obnoxious at the bar and people generally don’t want to be around him because everyone is sick of his macho man attitude. In that case I would always rather be a friend to him so I can easily leave and walk away from him than be associated as his girl.”
– Martha, 26
4. He’s just a friend with benefits.
“This might seem weird, but I’ve had sex with guys that I’ve put in the friend zone. Just because I have sex with them doesn’t mean I have feelings for them and I wouldn’t want to date them just because. Even if I don’t want a relationship at the time, I can still want to have sex.”
– Cam, 30
5. He’s dating or did date one of my friends.
“I would never date or even hook up with one of my friends ex boyfriends so he is automatically in the friendzone, even if he tries to hit on me. I would never do that because if he’s even going to try that he’s not someone I’m interested in.”
– Sara, 23
6. He is needy and Clingy.
“I cannot even consider dating someone who is needy and relies solely on me. I need him to be his own person, if not he’s getting immediately friendzoned. When I think of someone I’d want to be in a relationship it is with someone confident and not completely reliant on others, someone who can take care of themselves. I’ve got too much going on myself to worry about taking care of another human.”
– Jill, 31
7. I can’t control my feelings.
“There are just some people I fall hard and fast for because that’s the type of person I am, and then there are others that I just don’t think I’ll ever be attracted to in any way. They just give me the friend vibe and I can’t control that. My emotions have a mind of their own and I wish more people would realize you can’t control who you love and have chemistry for.”
– Hayley, 22
8. His sense of humor is non-existent.
“I’m sorry, but if you can’t make me laugh or even laugh at things I think are funny we are never going to get along. Laughing is needed and necessary in relationships and if you don’t get my sense of humor or sarcasm, you’re automatically friendzoned. I need a good joke and someone to laugh at my quirks.”
– Sydney, 23
9. He is too important for me to lose.
“I have really good friends that I’ve put in the friendzone simply because I couldn’t imagine my life with out him so I’d rather not ruin it by trying anything. He’s such a great person and he’s going to make someone really happy, but I really can’t risk losing him because without him I’d have nothing so I need him as he is.”
– Riley, 22
10. It just happens sometimes.
“Honestly everyone has been friendzoned. Everyone has been attracted to someone who doesn’t want them back. Everyone has been rejected. It is just something that happens and sometimes it’s something you can’t control. You can’t force feelings because that will never lead to happiness, but the friendzone is just a place that people who you don’t want to pursue a future with are in a romantic or sexual way, which is fine because everyone has been there. It might not be fair, but it’s life.”
– Stephanie, 29