Some People Are Meant To Be Temporary And That’s Okay

Ariel Lustra

We don’t meet anyone by accident. There is always some intrinsic reasoning as to why someone enters and exits your life. And no matter how long they stay, sometimes people are only meant to stay for the time being. And that’s one of the hardest realizations we have to face.

People who come and go from your life quickly are often the ones who expose you to new opportunities and ways to grow.

We’re resistant to letting these people go because we begin to adapt to them. What we fail understand that some people are meant to be temporary, as much as we wish they weren’t.

“Not everything is supposed to become something beautiful and long-lasting. Sometimes people come into your life to show you what is right and what is wrong, to show you who you can be, to teach you to love yourself, to make you feel better for a little while, or to just be someone to walk with at night and spill your life to. Not everyone is going to stay forever, and we still have to keep on going and thank them for what they’ve given us.” —Emery Allen

I look back at my most memorable encounters and I can now see how every person I’ve come across has played an unheeded role in shaping me into the person I am today. I’ve shared my deep-rooted thoughts, fears, secrets, and dreams with people that are no longer a part of my life. I don’t regret it one bit because at the time it was exactly what I wanted to do.

I’ve always found it to be so cool that your life crosses paths with the lives of so many others, and that even if you just know someone for a short time, you can have an effect on their life and their stories. Looking at it from this point of view makes life exciting.

The sooner we come to terms with the fact that not everybody is meant to be a permanent part of your life, the easier it will be to relish in new relationships and appreciate the time you have to spend with that person, and allow them to exit when it’s time to. We need to make the most of the time we have with each other, and focus on being present. Let go of expectations and assumptions and harbor as many connections as you possibly can.

“I see a lot of people in un-stimulating relationships, and not just boyfriend-girlfriend relationships. They find themselves in stagnant friendships. If people were less scared of ending things, they’d get more out of life….You meet the right person at the right time and they fulfill a certain something in your life. You fulfill something in theirs. But there’s a limit to that.” —Laura Marling

If you lose somebody from your life, don’t lose yourself too.

Always remember that just because some people are only in your life temporarily, it doesn’t make the memories and lessons you’ve shared any less memorable. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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