33 Women Confess What They Worry About Before Hooking Up With A Man For The First Time

By Thought Catalog, October 19th 2018

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24. Herpes. Not theirs, mine.

“Herpes. Not theirs, mine. I was raped when I was 19 by a friend and he gave me the herp as a lasting reminder. I still don’t know how to handle it with style and/or humor.

Also I always think deep down that guys are just ‘settling’ for me and secretly think they could do better and I’m never really that into it because of feeling self-conscious.

Also to those guys worrying about size I hear you but please don’t worry too much. By far and away the guy I had the most exciting sex with had a small one, but we had a lot of chemistry and it didn’t matter. Besides big ones are fun to fuck, small ones are fun to suck so there’s always some reason why yours is completely awesome.”

—renegade_donut

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Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.