33 Women Confess What They Worry About Before Hooking Up With A Man For The First Time

By Thought Catalog, October 19th 2018

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16. That he’ll see the scars on my hip from cutting myself.

“I have a bunch of scars on my left hip from cutting myself. It was a long time ago but they’re still quite obvious, so I usually have sex in dim light. Only one guy has commented on them, but he immediately called me selfish and heavily implied that it made me a bad person, so…I dunno.

With the guy I’m kinda currently seeing, we’ve only had sex in the dark so I don’t know how he’ll react. He reacted kinda odd when I told him I take antidepressants so I’m not too optimistic.”

—volbeetle

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Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.