33 Women Confess What They Worry About Before Hooking Up With A Man For The First Time

By Thought Catalog, October 19th 2018

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13. The first time my asshole ex bf saw me naked he said ‘your pussy is weird.’

“The first time my asshole ex bf saw me naked he said ‘your pussy is weird.’ I now know that it’s totally not and that he’s just an idiot with no filter, but now I have a fear of new partners seeing my bits for the first time. The same idiot was lazy and always said it took too long to get me off, so with new partners I’m always insecure and worried that he’s getting tired or frustrated with how long I’m taking. Sometimes all it takes is one moron to fuck up your sexual confidence.”

—darthliki

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Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.