1. Half of what youâre feeling is probably not even heartbreakâitâs just anxiety over losing a source of comfort.
2. You are free.
3. The sweetest ârevengeâ is simply living and thriving in your own beautiful life, without them.
4. Câmon. They werenât really that good in bed.
5. You can now live without the fear that they are dampening your experiences and distracting you from yourself.
6. Anything they said to hurt you was only a projection of their own complexes and insecurities.
7. You did not lose themâthey lost you.
8. It is through these dark, depressed moments that youâll realize how viciously capable and self-sustaining you truly are.
9. No one person is âperfectâ for another.
10. There will be others.
11. The next body you touch will be unfamiliar. Itâs natural to feel nervous.
12. You have not experienced the peak of romantic love. There is so much more to come.
13. You do not need them.
14. And, in fact, you never did.
15. You wanted them, and they brought you comfort. But never, ever did you need them.
16. When you feel the urge to call/text/message them, remember: There is often more power in silence than in cutting words.
17. McDonaldâs will never not have french fries.
18. And Netflix just released a new season of ________.
19. You are the most important person in your life.
20. You are #1.
21. You are the only person you can rely on unconditionally, and only you can muster the courage to move on from this messy ordeal.
22. It is all too easy to remember relationships as romantic illusions of what they actually were.
23. We tend to remember the highlights, the good memories, the fullness of all that feeling, while failing to remind ourselves why we had to walk away.
24. So, for now, focus on their shortcomings, their selfishnessâthe things you accepted about them, but did not like.
25. Mute the loving memories. You broke up for a reason.
26. Their latest insta was dumb AF anyway.
27. Do not let anyone convince you that youâre taking too long to move on.
28. Take all the time you need.
29. Understanding, peace, and closure will sneak up on you at their own pace.
30. Even if they are taking their sweet time, they will arrive.
31. And when they do, embrace them. Learn from this chapter of heartbreakâit wonât be the only oneâand blossom.
32. The concept of âdeservingâ is shallow, but if they were cruel, they did not deserve your beauty.
33. If it were meant to be, it would be.
34. And, maybe, it still isâlater. Not now.
35. But do not not navigate your life with that possibility in mind.
36. If you doâif you seriously indulge the idea that the two of you will find each other again, and that when you do, itâll be rightâyou will close yourself off to the good things for which this breakup has paved the way.
37. Talk to your parents. They have experience and wisdom to share.
38. All the sadness, anger, and regret youâre feeling deserves to be felt.
39. So donât push your emotions away in an effort to âget over it.â Feel them, and let them pass when they will.
40. At a certain point in the near future, the urge to talk to them will dissipate.
41. âŠBecause talking to them is a thing of habit, not a necessity.
42. If you are not yet ready to sleep with anyone, ignore those well-intentioned encouragements to âget under someone new.â
43. There is no such thing as a âgoodâ breakup.
44. Seek comfort in the things that have always brought you happiness.
45. Soon, they will think of you, and they will be deeply sad youâre not sitting next to them.
46. The sun will rise tomorrow. Life will go on.
47. There will come a time when the very things that are making you cry will make you laugh.
48. While they may have damaged your spirit, they didnât come close to destroying you.
49. They never âcompletedâ you.
50. You are broken, yes, but you are complete, you are whole, and you are fulfilled without them.