Shahida Arabi
Shahida is a graduate of Harvard University and Columbia University. She is a published researcher and author of Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse and Breaking Trauma Bonds with Narcissists and Psychopaths. Her books have been translated into 16+ languages all over the world. Her work has been featured on Salon, HuffPost, Inc., Bustle, Psychology Today, Healthline, VICE, NYDaily News and more. For more inspiration and insight on manipulation and red flags, follow her on Instagram here.
How NOT To Raise a Narcissist: A Step-By-Step Guide
Don’t stay together for the children. Model empathy, boundaries, and accountability instead.
Healing from Narcissistic Abuse with Lifestyle: Nutritionists Share Best Tips on Nourishing Foods and Diets
When survivors have been abused by a narcissist, they can experience a plethora of stress-related symptoms.
Divorcing and Co-Parenting With Narcissists: Lawyers Share Tips For Handling High-Conflict Personalities in Court
Lawyers and mediators share their best tips on how to divorce a narcissist and tackle custody issues with effectiveness.
Fawn Is The Trauma Response Tied To People-Pleasing and Toxic Relationships — Here’s How To Heal
You’ve likely heard of trauma responses like fight, flight, or freeze. But have you heard of “fawn?” Fawning is a trauma response characterized by appeasing a predator or complying with their demands to avoid danger and mitigate threat.
6 Behaviors “High-Functioning” Trauma Survivors Will Understand Deeply
As a researcher specializing in trauma, I often hear myths about how trauma can affect people and present itself. Here are six behaviors “high-functioning” trauma survivors will understand deeply: Being calm isn’t a sign that the trauma never happened.
6 Behaviors of Narcissists That We Can “Learn” From and Use Differently — Without Being Toxic
Unhealthy narcissistic behaviors cause harm to others. Undoubtedly none of us want to become narcissistic nor would we want to take on any of these traits.
8 Dating App Red Flag Phrases That Are Surprisingly Toxic — Translated
Watch out for these eight red flag phrases on dating apps.
The Narcissist’s Covert Enablers: 6 Toxic Red Flags to Watch Out For
Enablers of the narcissist can exist on a spectrum.
Daddy Issues: 5 Toxic Signs of Narcissistic Fathers
If you’re the daughter or son of a narcissistic father, you likely experienced manipulation and exploitation from an early age.
10 Powerful Signs You’ve Entered Your Dark Feminine Era
The “dark feminine era” has become a trending hashtag and theme, especially on social media platforms like TikTok. But what does it really mean and symbolize?
Is Your Boyfriend Toxic? Take This Test To Find Out
Toxicity exists on a spectrum, but there is a set of tell-tale behaviors that can point to a core lack of empathy, entitlement, and exploitativeness that can be harmful to relationships.
Narcissists Are Different from Psychopaths In These 7 Powerful Ways
One of the most common questions I get asked as a researcher specializing in narcissism and psychopathy is what the difference between a narcissist and a psychopath is.
Childfree, Single Women Are Among the Happiest: Therapists, Psychiatrists and Childfree Millennials Explain Why
According to Harvard-trained psychologist Dr. Bella DePaulo, research indicates that single, childfree women can be just as happy and satisfied with their lives as their coupled counterparts – in some cases, even happier, healthier, and wealthier.
Sarcasm Can Be A Red Flag of Psychopathy, According to Research—How It Looks in Toxic Relationships
A shocking red flag of psychopathy is a behavior that is usually not considered because it is so normalized in today’s society. This red flag of psychopathy?
12 Surprising Red Flags That Expose Narcissists on the First Date
Whether on the first date or the one-year anniversary, narcissists eventually exhibit twelve red flags that give away their true nature. More covert manipulators may unmask themselves only after they suspect you’re already invested in the relationship.
Hookup Culture and Situationships Present Unique Risks to Women, Doctors and Therapists Say
Hookup culture offered the promise of female sexual liberation, empowerment, and agency, but it may have presented far more risks than benefits.
Raised By Narcissistic Parents? You May Display These 5 Contradictory Behaviors
Adult children of narcissistic parents had one or more parents who lacked empathy, exhibited an excessive sense of entitlement, and callously exploited their children.
5 Toxic Things Narcissists Say About Their Exes and What They REALLY Mean
Narcissistic and psychopathic individuals misuse common phrases to gaslight others. They will usually depict their exes in a distorted way to manipulate their new targets and often use their new targets to retraumatize their exes.