Shahida Arabi
Shahida is a graduate of Harvard University and Columbia University. She is a published researcher and author of Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse and Breaking Trauma Bonds with Narcissists and Psychopaths. Her books have been translated into 16+ languages all over the world. Her work has been featured on Salon, HuffPost, Inc., Bustle, Psychology Today, Healthline, VICE, NYDaily News and more. For more inspiration and insight on manipulation and red flags, follow her on Instagram here.
6 Dating Red Flags of Narcissists Most People Mistake As Green Flags
There are certain seeming “green flags” that are actually the dating red flags of a narcissist. The last one may surprise you. Love bombing is viewed as “finally” meeting your soulmate.
5 Signs You’re a Highly Sensitive Person, Even If You Don’t Realize It
Are you what researchers call a “highly sensitive person”? High sensitivity is an innate, genetic trait that appears in 15-20% of the population.
Never Ask An INFJ To Do These 5 Things
The INFJ (standing for Introversion (I), Intuition (N), Feeling (F), Judgment (J)) is the rarest Myers-Briggs personality type, making up 1-2% of the population.They have a “darker” side that allows them to harness their traits powerfully to seek justice. Here are five things you must never ask an INFJ to do.
10 Clever Ways to Fool A Narcissist To Keep Yourself Safe
If you want to fool a narcissist to keep yourself safe, here are ten clever ways to do so.
How NOT To Raise a Narcissist: A Step-By-Step Guide
Don’t stay together for the children. Model empathy, boundaries, and accountability instead.
Healing from Narcissistic Abuse with Lifestyle: Nutritionists Share Best Tips on Nourishing Foods and Diets
When survivors have been abused by a narcissist, they can experience a plethora of stress-related symptoms.
Divorcing and Co-Parenting With Narcissists: Lawyers Share Tips For Handling High-Conflict Personalities in Court
Lawyers and mediators share their best tips on how to divorce a narcissist and tackle custody issues with effectiveness.
Fawn Is The Trauma Response Tied To People-Pleasing and Toxic Relationships — Here’s How To Heal
You’ve likely heard of trauma responses like fight, flight, or freeze. But have you heard of “fawn?” Fawning is a trauma response characterized by appeasing a predator or complying with their demands to avoid danger and mitigate threat.
6 Behaviors “High-Functioning” Trauma Survivors Will Understand Deeply
As a researcher specializing in trauma, I often hear myths about how trauma can affect people and present itself. Here are six behaviors “high-functioning” trauma survivors will understand deeply: Being calm isn’t a sign that the trauma never happened.
6 Behaviors of Narcissists That We Can “Learn” From and Use Differently — Without Being Toxic
Unhealthy narcissistic behaviors cause harm to others. Undoubtedly none of us want to become narcissistic nor would we want to take on any of these traits.
8 Dating App Red Flag Phrases That Are Surprisingly Toxic — Translated
Watch out for these eight red flag phrases on dating apps.
The Narcissist’s Covert Enablers: 6 Toxic Red Flags to Watch Out For
Enablers of the narcissist can exist on a spectrum.
Daddy Issues: 5 Toxic Signs of Narcissistic Fathers
If you’re the daughter or son of a narcissistic father, you likely experienced manipulation and exploitation from an early age.
10 Powerful Signs You’ve Entered Your Dark Feminine Era
The “dark feminine era” has become a trending hashtag and theme, especially on social media platforms like TikTok. But what does it really mean and symbolize?
Is Your Boyfriend Toxic? Take This Test To Find Out
Toxicity exists on a spectrum, but there is a set of tell-tale behaviors that can point to a core lack of empathy, entitlement, and exploitativeness that can be harmful to relationships.
Narcissists Are Different from Psychopaths In These 7 Powerful Ways
One of the most common questions I get asked as a researcher specializing in narcissism and psychopathy is what the difference between a narcissist and a psychopath is.
Childfree, Single Women Are Among the Happiest: Therapists, Psychiatrists and Childfree Millennials Explain Why
According to Harvard-trained psychologist Dr. Bella DePaulo, research indicates that single, childfree women can be just as happy and satisfied with their lives as their coupled counterparts – in some cases, even happier, healthier, and wealthier.
Sarcasm Can Be A Red Flag of Psychopathy, According to Research—How It Looks in Toxic Relationships
A shocking red flag of psychopathy is a behavior that is usually not considered because it is so normalized in today’s society. This red flag of psychopathy?