8 Mistakes People Make When They Fall In Love

1. You forget your friends

Wait, I had a life before I met this person? Are you sure? Because I seriously can’t recall. You’re telling me I had friends? Hmmm, I guess an argument could be made for that but it’s all very fuzzy. Can we talk about this later? I have a penis that is waiting to be inside of me. We’ll continue this conversation… later. I’ll text you!

2. You become soooooo Helen Keller

Love can be a giant short bus, y’all! It can cause otherwise smart, capable people to become deaf and blind to any and flaws. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen intelligent strong people be reduced to a 60 IQ just because they’re on that falling in love tip. (Myself included.) It’s, quite frankly, scary how certain relationships can zap us of our personalities and strength. Just think of Heidi Montag, you guys! She came to L.A. with Lauren Conrad as an INDEPENDENT WOMAN and now she’s playing “Spin The Dreidel” with her old nose in a secluded warehouse in Tarzana with Spencer Pratt.

3. You give up your post grad dreams for someone else’s

“Before I met you, my plans were to move to X city and get X job, but, I don’t know, it wasn’t like set in stone or anything. What do you wanna do? ‘Cause I’ll just do that. I’m down for whatevs. It’s just my future, babe! I srsly don’t currrrr. Just c’mere.”

4. You get resentful

If you’re in one of those relationships that forces you to sacrifice parts of yourself, you WILL grow to resent them, even without realizing it. Because no matter how in love you are, if there’s a growing gap in the relationship, if you’re never being met halfway, all the orgasms in the world won’t stop you from feeling like you’ve been given a crappy deal. BECAUSE YOU HAVE.

5. You eat too much

Just kidding! This isn’t so much a mistake as it is a gift from Cupid himself! Say it with me every day: “Whatever, I’m getting cheese fries.”

6. You let them get away with lazy bedroom behavior

Look, I’m all for a lazy “I don’t wanna do anything” sex moment. That’s what happens when you’re doing it on the reg with one person. But it’s important to keep note if your significant other has been phoning it in all the time, especially if you’ve still been trying to give Oscar-worthy performances. No wants to be the Meryl Strep who’s stuck dating Melissa Joan Hart.

7. You forget that people don’t care so much about your relationship

Love makes you do wacky things, including telling all your friends what your BF/GF ate for breakfast and assuming that they’ll care. Here’s the thing: Your friends do give a crap about your relationship. But what they couldn’t give two flying fucks is about the happy look they had on their face when you woke up this morning or the fact that they switched to soy because of their lactose intolerance. You know the only reason why you care about their lactose intolerance? Because you’re having sex with them. If you didn’t see this person naked and get to rub your private parts together, you’d be in a boredom-induced coma from such conversation topics.

8. You become jealous

“I’m not a jealous person” — says someone who has never been in a relationship before. Granted, there are varying degrees of jealousy. You don’t have to be a psycho who wants to hack into their email to experience moments of insecurity in your relationship. But know this: The insecurity and jealousy will shock you. You’ll have no idea you had the capacity to feel so unsure until you care so much about someone. TC Mark

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  • http://twitter.com/andritweets Andri Antoniades (@andritweets)

    Wow, “You become so Helen Keller”? Helen Keller was blind and deaf, and you’re equating that with stupidity makes me embarrassed for you. Shame on you.

    • Olive

      calm down dude

    • Andi

      Woah. You know that stick up your ass? Well, you should try and remove it. It’s not a good look.

      • Stacie

        It’s called ableism and people who call it out do not have a “stick up their ass,” they recognize social injustices. That Helen Keller statement was discriminatory to differently-abled people.

    • http://gravatar.com/ousleyp Pamela

      Exactly. Thank you.

    • Bayley

      I absolutely agree with you Andri. Helen Keller was blind and deaf, but by no means stupid. She earned a university degree, and became a highly recognized author and political and social activist fighting for women’s rights as well as several other issues. She is a role model and inspiration.
      The fact that you would equate being deaf and blind as stupid, is ignorant and very offensive.
      Challenges hearing and seeing have nothing whatsoever to with intelligence.

    • Megs

      I totally agree, Andri.

    • Andrew

      Yeah, not cool.

    • Emry

      I think mostly he was referring to the fact that you become blind and deaf to the flaws of your SO.

  • k

    will you be my therapist?

  • ML

    Meryl Strep

    • JL

      in Tarzana

  • kotyneelis

    hahaha love it.

  • http://gravatar.com/rachelelizabethramirez Rachel Ramirez

    #1, #3, and #7 especially. Your friends and family are begging you to stop doing those.

  • H

    Number 7 is disturbingly accurate.

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  • K.C.

    THE JEALOUSY. YES. I had no idea…. untillll….. yikes.

  • Elijah

    The Meryl Streep dating Melissa Joan Hart, that was pretty funny.

  • Nicole

    Everything except #7: I can’t seem to stop making these mistakes! Spot on. And demoralizing.

  • Claire

    The Hellen Keller thing was kind of outta line.

  • http://twitter.com/KhakiHat KhakiHat (@KhakiHat)

    “No wants to be the Meryl Strep who’s stuck dating Melissa Joan Hart.”
    I own that DVD.
    Saphoic innuendo aside, this is a fantastic little list of things that love does to people.

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  • SaraLily

    THIS: “You’ll have no idea you had the capacity to feel so unsure until you care so much about someone.” YES. I never thought of myself as a jealous type but I’ve been creeping myself out with how jealous/insecure I have been getting with my current relationship!!

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