19 Pieces Of Advice You’ll Need To Make It Through Your 20s

1. Knowing what you don’t want can often be more valuable than knowing what you do want.

2. Despite what it looks like on someone’s Facebook or Twitter, no one has it figured out. We’re all just slapping things against a wall and seeing what sticks.

3. Beating yourself up about a mistake you made is only going to make you more inclined to do it again. Just accept that it happened and move on.

4. If someone is behaving strangely and there seems to be no explanation for it, look to alcohol and drugs!

5. Don’t burn bridges in your professional life. You never know when you might need them later on.(Douchey but real.)

6. Don’t sleep with someone who makes you feel like dirt. Don’t try to get skinny or take garcinia to change yourself becauseย you can’t change them. If you’re dating a jerk, you should dump them and then try to figure out why you’re attracted to jerks in the first place.

7. Don’t spend on an overpriced car. A clunker is almost always better for a first car for financial, safety and practice reasons – and you should consider a car buying guide before you go off and sign a lease that’ll consume most of your income for the next 3 years.

8. Anxiety can work in two ways: It can act as your biggest motivator or keep you frozen. Always strive for the former.

9. It’s important that you advocate for yourself in both your work and personal life. No one’s going to care more about you than yourself.

10. Always make sure to treat your parents with respect to make up for the years of hell you put them through as an adolescent. (Unless, of course, your parents are awful. In which case, screw them and make your own family.)

11. Jealousy is a useless emotion. Turn into something more productive. Let it push you to get ahead.

12. If you’re feeling depressed and you’re not sure why, there’s a 70% chance you just need to leave your apartment and be social.

13. Some of the people in this world are parasites just looking to suck you dry. Identify them and get them the hell out of your life.

14. Loving yourself — especially during such a rollercoaster of a decade — is going to be your biggest challenge, but in the end, it will be worth it. Prioritize the relationship you have with yourself over everything else.

15. The only good reason to go into debt is for traveling. Not Isabel Marant boots or expensive groceries.

16. Every relationship means something, even the ones that were so incredibly awful and painful. (Especially those.)

17. It doesn’t matter if you’re not currently where you want to be in your life. What matters is that you’re actively trying to achieve your goals rather than getting defeated.

18. Appreciate what it means to be young. As much as someone can anyway.

19. Love as much as you can. Don’t become scared of it. Don’t let a bad experience close you off for good.

BONUS: Those who give good advice are usually the most insane messes of them all. Just sayin’.

All information provided in this article is for reference purposes only.

TC Mark

Ryan O'Connell

I'm a brat.


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  • http://theperfectlymad.wordpress.com theperfectlymad

    Reblogged this on The Perfectly Mad and commented:
    Thanks for this.

  • I like to learn.

    “15. The only good reason to go into debt is for traveling. Not Isabel Marant boots or expensive groceries.”
    Or, you know, education.

    • Claire

      true but damn i want some isabel marant dickers

    • ali

      Lol so true. Ryan, you’ve literally written like 10 other posts saying basically the same thing. Time for something new…

      • Jeannie

        I like his posts like these though!

    • James

      Or buying a house? Or a car? Or starting a business?

  • karina

    I feel like such a creep for wanting to be your best friend.

    • http://gravatar.com/jshellmann jshellmann

      I thought the same thing!

    • ABA

      Haha, me too. I sent him an e-mail….uh, creepstar 5000….

  • MAJA

    BONUS here…nice to meet you! :D

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  • tucker

    Thank you. #17 is something I need to remember everyday

  • http://iconicinspiration.wordpress.com Cynth

    hey thx TC, i have been making microwaveable s’mores and writing grocery lists and feeling sad. #12 grants me a new outlook and a solution

  • http://twitter.com/SoosSahar .. (@SoosSahar)

    dude <3

  • http://solosearcher.wordpress.com Solosearcher

    Good advice for anyone, even those well out of their 20’s…

  • m.

    I feel old for saying this, but if you’re feeling depressed maybe you just need to eat better. All the sugar, caffeine and fat can make you feel like shit.

    Love you, Ryan!!

    • http://youlovemercedes.wordpress.com Mercedes

      I beg to differ. I feel like a child again eating a cupcake. :P

  • beccablez

    Reblogged this on [working title] and commented:
    Exactly what I needed to read on a hungover, anti-social day like today.

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  • Butt

    Haven’t you already written this article 50 times before?

    • anon

      Right? It’s like a weekly thing now. God help us if he makes it to 30

  • Ed

    I love the ambiguity of #6 xD
    Hmm, why do I like dicks?

  • Gib

    I love this solely for the addendum to advice #10

  • Sam

    I will NEVER get sick of these types of lists you post, ever

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    Just made me feel so much better about everything.

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  • http://fatimafindsherwayhome.wordpress.com Fatima

    Reblogged this on In Hope of Being Found and commented:
    Saw the link to this on my friend AJ’s Twitter account. It’s timely for me since I just turned 19 and some of these words of advice apply so much to me.

  • http://mennlay.wordpress.com Someone Else

    Ah, how nice to find this at the age of twenty-nine!

    They get really good at the end โ€” especially # 15. “The only good reason to go into debt is for traveling. Not Isabel Marant boots or expensive groceries.”


  • hm

    this is horrible advice god life is not a jersey shore finale. the best advice you could give to someone going into their twenties is to not fuck it up plain and simple, breathe in breathe out.

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      • hm

        yeah ok

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    thoughtcatalog was interesting on my first few visits until i realized that there’s simply a repeated theme of posting the same advice about “how to survive your 20s” or some derivative of that…

  • http://perfectlypriya.blogspot.com Priya

    I loved reading this! Amazingly inspiring and yet funny and too overly deep. The common theme I see here is to love yourself, which I think we can all do more of! I love what you said about jealousy/anxiety/not having it all together, because that is exactly what I thought I WOULD feel in my 20’s. Alas, still learning. Great post!!

    • http://perfectlypriya.blogspot.com Priya

      *NOT too overly deep.

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