5 Truths No One Likes To Hear

1. Some people just don’t want to be your friend

Everyone has that one friend we always feel rejected by. We constantly try to make plans with them to hang out but we’re always met with some explanation of “You know, this week is just really insane. I could do a lunch from 2:10 to 2:20 three weeks from now though…” They make themselves seem like the busiest person on Planet Earth. Busier than James Franco! How could they ever have a moment to see a friend for drinks? Don’t you just know how positively swamped they are?! You’re so insensitive, flaunting around your balanced life of work and socializing. The Busiest Person On Earth is preoccupied with canceling plans to hang out and walking swiftly to Very Important Places—places that you can’t come to!

Yeah, this is a load of BS. I know you’re trying to keep the friendship flame alive but you should just stop trying and salvage some dignity. No one is ever too busy to hang out with someone they genuinely want to see. You make time for the right people. You prioritize. If a friend is constantly flaking, they’re basically telling you that they’re just not that interested in maintaining the friendship. Sowwy.

2. You can’t change people…most of the time

Human beings have this nasty habit of wanting to save other people. We think that with the right amount of TLC, we can change the foundation of someone’s personality and mold them into being the perfect partner.

Well, newsflash: it ain’t true. While a good relationship should cause both parties to make improvements, you can’t date a fixer-upper expecting a Persian Palace at the end of it. People only change if they want to. It doesn’t matter how many reassuring love pats you give them. If they’re not down to be, like, a good person, all your hard work is essentially fruitless.  Go get a new hobby. Preferably something that’s not so detrimental to your self-esteem.

3. You’re a terrible drunk.

If you’re one of those people who, when they drink, morphs into a wild, scary animal, chances are you got some problems and drinking is only magnifying them. Getting wasted shouldn’t cause to you turn into something unrecognizable. It should just make you looser, happier, stupid, and starving. But hearing a friend tell you that you’re scary/annoying when you’re drunk NEVER feels good. In your mind, you’re just really wild! The life of the party! Everyone’s on the same level as you, right? Um, no. You’re a hot mess. Please stop drinking.

4. You’re in a crappy relationship

This is a really sticky situation. How do you tell a close friend that they’re in a terrible relationship? Not just garden variety “Your special person is lame and we don’t really click!” but like “Your special person is not special. They’re actually ruining your life!” No one wants to hear that! Need I remind you that love is deaf, dumb, and blind?!  When you’re in a bad relationship, you learn to rationalize all of it. In your mind, it’s fine and even if you’re aware of it being unhealthy, you’re used to it so back off, concerned friends! You’re just jealous! You wish you could be loved like this! Um, yeah. People are crazy when they’re sleeping with crazy people. This is a truth no one likes to hear and it’d probably be best to just wait it out until your friend comes to their senses. If they get engaged, you can put your foot down, I guess.

5. Yeah, that outfit does make you look weird

Am I the only one who likes to be told when an outfit makes my body look weird? If you’re my friend, it’s your job to tell me if the clothes I’m wearing aren’t doing me any favors. This isn’t about me thinking I’m fat. It’s about the very real deceptive nature of clothes. A pair of jeans can make you look ten pounds heavier or lighter. A shirt, depending on how it’s cut, is going to either make me look buff or dumpy. So tell me the truth. I can handle the truth! TC mark

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  • guest

    I am so tired of list articles I could puke.

    • Guest 2

      Can you give me five reasons why in a semi-dry and seemingly funny tone?

    • http://twitter.com/shallowechos TRES

      SO. DON’T READ THEM
      REALLY FUCKING SIMPLE.

  • http://twitter.com/dietblonde Elizabeth

    I never hear or believe anyone when they tell me #4. Just let me crash and burn, guys! CRASH and BURN!!!

  • Rishtopher

    Everyone needs to remember #1. Everyone. 

  • Guest

    1. they are all written with the same sub-seventh grade sentimentality that appeals to folks who think “my so called life” could actually be their so called life.

    i’d write more but yawn

  • Anonymous

    Honestly TC, none of these list articles are “thought” provoking in anyway.

    • http://twitter.com/littlebitesbig Little Bites Big

      And yet, I keep clicking on the links, hoping I’ll get more… I remember when TC got me really excited after every article I read.

  • Nishant

    Oh boo hoo.

  • http://www.about.me/tanyasalyers Tanya Salyers

    #1 is so true.

  • http://twitter.com/godwearsfendi Opik

    #1 just happened to me

  • Marleigh

    1 isn’t necessarily true, if the friend in question is an introvert. Sometimes I don’t want to see people, sometimes I lie and say I’m really busy so that I can hole up in my room and enjoy music and books and writing. It doesn’t mean I don’t want to see them at a later date, it means I want to be alone now. I’ll make time if I do want to see you, but if its not now, its not now.

    • Matt Clark

      I think a lot of people don’t understand this because they are afraid of alone time and tell themselves they have to be with someone all the time. You don’t have to be an introvert to appreciate alone time.

  • Caroline

    Hey TC, if you eventually run out of lists to publish (which may happen soon, considering the vast quantity you’ve come up with lately) I’d be happy to send in my grocery list.

  • guise

    boring.

  • Wdeanis

    Just tell me this shirt shows a weird amount of collar bone for a guy, damn!

  • lf3iw

    #4 – what if this idiot friend secretly MARRIED his psychopathic girlfriend? (and when I say psychopathic, I actually really mean that I believe she is clinically psychopathic…) :P I really wish I (or ANYONE) had been more vocal when I’d had the chance. How he’s stuck supporting her non-working parasitic ass while she lives 350 miles away (making every excuse to not move down here to be with him. Her HUSBAND.) and he still defends her! People, sometimes it’s worth sacrificing a relationship for a little while to try to save a friend from themselves

  • Matt Clark

    My experience with #1 is slightly different. What about people who have such big egos that they can’t believe you wouldn’t want to hang out with them? This has been a theme for me with old friends that I can’t stand anymore because of their huge egos and they just can’t accept that I’m not the same person I was a decade ago or whatever. People’s audacity never fails to amaze me. Big egos are hard to reason with.

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