You are not your experiences – you are what you choose to make of those experiences.
Spending most of your years in the bliss of singleness teaches you a lot of things, both good and bad.
I want you to listen to me clearly – things do not get better straight away.
We think that the moment we’ve found love, we’ve found a way to happiness that we didn’t have before. We think that being in a committed relationship is the solution to all our problems and, once we have a partner, we can take on everything else.
Maybe we’ve got it all wrong.
By alone, I mean only depending on yourself for your happiness and your comfort. I mean dreaming of a future where your goals rely on you, and only you, to achieve them.
Don’t feel bad or guilty, because putting yourself first is not a crime. Taking care of your mental and emotional health is your priority.
It is a lesson that teaches you about love – that love is not one-sided or unsure about you, love is not one foot in and one foot out, love does not lead you on only to leave you or let you go.
I tasted salty water and felt the sand find a home between my toes as I walked into self-discovery.
I had to learn it for myself, but unfortunately some of us never learn this lesson the right way.