Ruby Dhal

You are not your experiences – you are what you choose to make of those experiences.

Spending most of your years in the bliss of singleness teaches you a lot of things, both good and bad.

I want you to listen to me clearly – things do not get better straight away.

We think that the moment we’ve found love, we’ve found a way to happiness that we didn’t have before. We think that being in a committed relationship is the solution to all our problems and, once we have a partner, we can take on everything else.

Maybe we’ve got it all wrong.

By alone, I mean only depending on yourself for your happiness and your comfort. I mean dreaming of a future where your goals rely on you, and only you, to achieve them. 

Don’t feel bad or guilty, because putting yourself first is not a crime. Taking care of your mental and emotional health is your priority.

It is a lesson that teaches you about love – that love is not one-sided or unsure about you, love is not one foot in and one foot out, love does not lead you on only to leave you or let you go.