We live in an age of competition and comparison so this is going to require some serious brain training, but honestly, you need to stop putting that poison inside your brain and your spirit by comparing yourself to others. This toxic rhetoric of how we all need to be massively successful by a certain age, married by a certain age, owned property by a certain age, had children by a certain age is a lie.
The truth is, we are all on completely separate journeys. Some of us will be successful at 21, some of us will be successful at 41. We all find our partners at different times and are ready for children at separate times. Forcing people to believe that everything needs to be done by the time you’re 30 leaves a very narrow space to really follow your dreams and learn everything you can along the journey.
Life is about more than work and marriage and success. It’s about being a good person. It is about appreciating every person that enters and exits your life whilst you have them. It is about living a wholesome life tailored to you. It’s about making mistakes and learning from them. It’s about falling in love with the wrong people so when the right ones come along you know how to appreciate them. It’s about making YOURSELF ready for the challenges YOU will face.
And you won’t do any of that if you’re worrying about how you haven’t done what your friends are doing right now or your parents were able to do at your age.
So seriously, stop comparing yourself to other people. Stop comparing yourself to anyone else. Your individual journey and the things you learn and the things you will be ready for in your own time are so very different from anyone else’s.
And it’s not just your journey. Your destinations are entirely different, and entirely independently beautiful.