Why The Love You Give Is Not Received The Way It Should Be

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Your heart is beautiful. It is constantly giving to others, even when they do not deserve it. Even when they break it over and over again, it finds a way to forgive them and love again. And sometimes you feel like the world is an unholy place, incapable of love. And sometimes you think the sadness that is wrecking your heart will be the last you will ever think of love but it isn’t true. You see, the problem is not you, it’s them.

It isn’t how deeply and intensely you are loving them. It’s the fact that they do not know how to love deeply or intensely in return. And instead of facing this about themselves, sadly, because most people lack self awareness and the capacity to apologise for their misdeeds, yet are terrified of being hated by and large by everyone they love, they take out this frustration on someone who is an easy target, someone they know will not retaliate. So you end up being called names. Like creepy and manipulative, like over intense and histrionic. All because you know how to love in full and not halves. All because it’s unfortunate but people do not know how to accept love as love.

In a world where everything has a price tag attached, you are a real thing that expects nothing in return. And that is suspicious to people who do not know how to give out pure love without expecting anything back. On this earth there are two kinds of humans. One kind who give. And the others who take. Unfortunately the takers well outweigh the givers.

And your beautiful soul has had to learn this lesson the hard way after years of being hurt by not receiving a modicum of the love you give so freely with so much kindness, all because people will love you but only as deeply as their insecurities let them. You are doing fine. Don’t let them get you down. You are doing the right thing by not tempering your love. It’s them who need to learn how to be receptive to something as wholesome and beautiful as your love. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

Nikita is the author of Your Soul Is A River and Your Heart Is The Sea.

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