The Ugly Honest Truth About The Guy Who Won’t Commit

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The ugly honest truth is if he hasn’t committed yet he probably never will.

The truth is when he says he doesn’t want a relationship what he’s really saying is he doesn’t want one with you.

The ugly honest truth is if he says he’s not ready or the timing is not right, you’ll find yourself waiting a while for him as he makes up excuses.

The ugly honest truth is if you give him the benefits of a relationship before you have a relationship, it’s always going to stay casual.

The truth is just because you have a long history it doesn’t mean there will be a future.

The ugly honest truth is if he really liked you, he’d want you to be with him and only him.

The truth is a label doesn’t scare him what scares him is a label with you.

The ugly honest truth is when he says he’s busy, that’s his way of saying he doesn’t care enough to make you a priority.

The ugly honest truth is when you bring up meeting his friends or family and he dodges the question or tells you soon what he’s really saying is he hasn’t told them about you.

The honest truth is when he says he doesn’t want to ruin something good or what you guys have already going what he’s really saying is there are other girls in the picture.

The ugly honest truth is when he tells you he can’t be your plus one what he’s really saying is he doesn’t want people to think you’re a thing.

The ugly honest truth when you guys run in constant circles, it isn’t a sign you are meant to be, it’s life ways of trying to teach you a lesson you aren’t learning. Life will keep giving you the same pop quiz until you pass it.

The honest truth is every time he cancels, makes up excuses and says sorry for the way he’s acted, he’s not really sorry, he just knows he’s been an ass.

The ugly honest truth is every time you accept less than you deserve, you’re telling him ‘it’s okay to treat me this way.’

The honest truth is every time he tells you he’ll leave her for you that’s never going to happen and you’ll always be some side chick.

The ugly honest truth is if he’ll cheat with you, he’ll have no problem cheating on you.

The ugly honest truth is if he says he’s one of the good ones, he probably isn’t. Good guys don’t have to say they are.

The ugly honest truth is when he says he doesn’t like games or drama, he’s probably going to create a lot of drama and fuck with your head.

The ugly honest truth when he bad mouths his exes and says they are crazy, he probably made them that way.

The honest truth is if it’s just a relationship based on texting and social media, it’ll never be something more than you emotionally boosting his ego every time you respond.

The ugly honest truth is if he’s texting you all the time, he’s probably texting a lot of other people too.

The ugly honest truth is if he’s blowing up your newsfeed, he’s probably doing it to a lot of other people.

The honest truth is if he doesn’t want pictures of you guys across social media it’s probably because he doesn’t want someone to see it.

The ugly honest truth is if he’s uncertain about a lot of things in his life, he’ll never be sure of you or care to make you feel secure in safe.

The ugly honest truth is you are never going to get what you want and deserve from someone like him. Because he’s the sweet talker who says all the right things but at the end of the day all of those words are really saying is ‘I’ll never choose you and I’ll let you continue to choose me for as long as you let this go on.’ TC mark

Kirsten Corley

Kirsten is the author of But Before You Leave, a book of poetry about the experiences we struggle to put into words.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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