If he likes you, he’s not just going to answer your texts.

He’s going to be the one sending the first one.

If he likes you, he’s not going to just be nice to you when you run into each other.

He’s going to show up where you are to see you and spend time with you.

If he likes you, he isn’t going to look at your snap first.

He’s going to be with you and you won’t care about looking at your phone.

If he likes you, he isn’t going to show you through likes on Instagram or Facebook.

He’s going to show the fuck up and tell this is how I feel and he won’t hold back.

I’m so tired of girls falling harder for guys as they try to create this narrative of someone caring when clearly they don’t.

I don’t care if he says all the right things. The only thing I care about is what he’s doing to prove it.

When he likes you, you aren’t going to have to wonder if he does.

If he truly likes you, he isn’t going to play you or try and mess with your head.

If he likes you he isn’t going to make up excuses as you why he didn’t make it again.

Instead, he is going to be there because you asked him to be.

Instead, he’s going to change his schedule so he doesn’t disappoint you.

If he likes you, you won’t have to remind him you exist by blowing up his news feed.

Snapping just to see if he looks at it. Posting on insta just to see if he likes it.

If he likes you you’ll be on his mind without you having to do anything at all.

Because when a guy truly likes you, he’s going to want to be with you and he’ll stop at nothing to make that happen.

If he likes you, he won’t wait hours to answer your text.

If he likes you, he won’t wait until the weekend to see you.

If he likes you, he won’t meet you for drinks. He’ll actually take you out to dinner.

If he likes you, you won’t have to think twice about it.

And if he doesn’t like you that’s when you’ll be confused. That’s when you’ll read signs that aren’t there. That’s when you’ll try really hard for someone’s time and attention when in reality, you know you are wasting yours but you don’t want to believe it.

When a guy doesn’t like a girl, instead of walking away she becomes naive.

He doesn’t like you if he hurts you and he can live with it.

He doesn’t like you if he can cancel on you and not care about making it up to you.

He doesn’t like you if you show up at the same place and he isn’t looking over his shoulder for you as you are him.

He doesn’t like you if he ignores you.

He doesn’t like you if he’s playing with your emotions.

He doesn’t like you if he’s not straight up saying it.

He doesn’t like you if you can pour your heart out and he avoids it.

He doesn’t like you if he isn’t making a move.

He doesn’t like you if the relationship is solely based on something physical.

He doesn’t like you if his friends and family don’t know about you.

He doesn’t like you if he brings up some other girls name.

And you can analyze it as much as you please. You can tell me he’s trying to make you jealous.

Maybe he is.

If that’s the case and you guys go back and forth with some fucked up game of cat and mouse, if he is trying to make you jealous he doesn’t like you.

Because the right person won’t try and make you jealous. The right person will give you so much time and attention and love that everyone else will be jealous of you.

Don’t fall for someone just because he’s there and giving you a little TLC.

Fall for someone who overwhelms you with it that you don’t even have to question how he feels.

When a guy likes you you’ll know. When a guy doesn’t like you, you know that too.

I’ve been there. Loving hard thinking maybe one day he’ll change. Jumping through hoops hoping maybe he’ll notice. I lost myself loving people in ways I wanted them to love me. But if I could go back in time and tell my former self-anything it would be to stop.

I think sometimes we don’t want to believe what we know in our heart to be true so we hang onto anything we can. But I also think sometimes we gravitate towards people we know don’t love us out of fear of one day finding someone who does. Because it’s only then when you find the right love, do you have something you can lose. So we stick to loving people who keep us at arm’s length because you can’t lose something that’s never been yours and your heart can’t break when it’s already broken, to begin with.