Healing can be one of the most difficult aspects of life to process as we can dwell on the hurtful memories that lie behind us. Whether loved ones like a husband, best friend, or amazing parents are causing the hurt, or the hurt is self-inflicted, learning how to overcome that hurt feeling is not comfortable or easy. Not to mention, saying sorry, taking accountability, and/or recognizing that the pain exists can be the hardest thing for a person to do because it means admitting their wrongdoings or realize they need help. Find a quote below that promotes seeing pain from a different angle or discover sayings that ease the pain of loving the wrong person. Be sure to use these hurt quotes to find solace, confront the pain, and begin healing.
Hurt Quotes to Connect With When Feeling Blue
“That feeling when you give it all you have, and life still kicks your ass.”
-Shane Parrish
“I hurt myself today to see if I still feel. I focus on the pain, the only thing that’s real.”
-Johnny Cash
“My feelings? Oh, don’t worry about those; no one else does.”
-Unknown
“Waiting is painful. Forgetting is painful. But not knowing which to do is the worst kind of suffering.”
-Paulo Coelho
“True pain cannot be concealed. ”
-Serbian Proverb
“It’s a lot easier to be angry at someone than it is to tell them you’re hurt.”
-Zakiya Caswell
“Yes, I understand why things had to happen this way. I understand his reason for causing me pain. But mere understanding does not chase away the hurt. It does not call upon the sun when dark clouds have loomed over me. Let the rain come then if it must come! And let it wash away the dust that hurt my eyes!”
-Jocelyn Soriano
“Still, being able to feel pain was good, he thought. It’s when you can’t even feel pain anymore that you’re in real trouble.”
-Haruki Murakami
“When I’m in a phase of real turmoil or the anxiety is very strong, it feels like the anxiety is never going to end, and it does.”
-Emma Stone
“Much unhappiness has come into the world because of bewilderment, and things left unsaid.”
-Fyodor Dostoevsky
“I always hated when my scars started to fade because as long as I could still see them, I knew why I was hurting.”
-Jodi Picoult
“The stupid might have wanted to help you but ended up hurting you.”
-Arabic Proverb
“Pain is always emotional. Fear and depression keep constant company with chronic hurting.”
-Siri Hustvedt
“I’m not upset that you lied to me; I’m upset that from now on, I can’t believe you.”
“We need never be ashamed of our tears.”
-Charles Dickens
“Welcome to the world. You will hurt the people you love the most. You will say stupid things and embarrass yourself repeatedly. You will crash your car and lose your wallet before the bill comes. You will get sick, sad, and lonely.”
-Markus Almond
“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.”
-Washington Irving
“The greatest griefs are those we cause ourselves.”
-Sophocles
“No matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn’t stop for your grief.”
-Faraaz Kazi
“Things that break— be they bones, hearts, or promises— can be put back together but will never really be whole.”
-Jodi Picoult
“Don’t hurt my feelings anymore. I left you my roses, and you gave me your thorns.”
-Godwin Delali Adadzie
“There were things I wanted to tell him. But I knew they would hurt him. So I buried them and let them hurt me.”
-Jonathan Safran Foer
“I still own my heart, which I know because it hurts so much.”
-Emilie Autumn
“I’m like someone who’s been thrown into the ocean at night, floating all alone. I reach out, but no one is there. I call out, but no one answers.”
-Haruki Murakami
“You can destroy my body, but not my soul.”
-Paulo Coelho
“People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. They prefer suffering that is familiar to the unknown.”
-Thich Nhat Hanh
“You say I’m afraid of being alone, and it’s true. I am. And I’m not proud of it.”
-Stephanie Perkins
“The ax never remembers. The tree never forgets.”
-Paulo Coelho
“Disappointment hurts more than pain.”
-Unknown
“Have you ever been hurt, and the place tries to heal a bit, and you just pull the scar off of it over and over again?”
-Rosa Parks
“Failure hurts but passes quickly. Regret hurts forever.”
-Shane Parrish
“Life eventually humbles us all. The longer it takes, the harder the fall.”
-Ed Latimore
“Life is a spell so exquisite that everything conspires to break it.”
-Emily Dickinson
“I have seen many storms in my life. Most storms have caught me by surprise, so I had to learn very quickly to exercise the art of patience and to respect the fury of nature.”
-Paulo Coelho
“Once you had put the pieces back together, even though you may look intact, you were never quite the same as you’d been before the fall.”
-Jodi Picoult
“It doesn’t hurt to feel sad from time to time.”
-Willie Nelson
“I wish I were a little girl again because skinned knees are easier to fix than a broken heart.”
-Julia Roberts
Hurt Quotes and Sayings that Promote a Perspective Change
“Whenever you think that some situation or some person is ruining your life, it’s actually you who are ruining your life. It’s such a simple idea. Feeling like a victim is a disastrous way to make go through life.”
-Charlie Munger
“The biggest mistake we make with negative emotions is trying not to feel them. Awareness deepens positive emotions and allows negative ones to dissipate. Trying to avoid your feelings causes suffering.”
-Shane Parrish
“You cry, I’m suffering severe pain! Are you then relieved from feeling it, if you bear it in an unmanly way?”
-Seneca
“Pain is inevitable; suffering is not.”
-Henepola Gunaratana
“It is very important that we do not try to run away from our painful feelings. We can recognize, accept, embrace, and look deeply.”
-Thich Nhat Hanh
“Few in this world are ever simply nasty; those who hurt us are themselves in pain. The appropriate response is hence never cynicism nor aggression but, at the rare moments, one can manage it, always love.”
-Alain de Botton
“Nobody can hurt me without my permission.”
-Mahatma Gandhi
“Life is a gamble. You can get hurt, but people die in plane crashes, lose their arms and legs in car accidents; people die every day. Same with fighters: some die, some get hurt, some go on. You just don’t let yourself believe it will happen to you.”
-Muhammad Ali
“Many things cause pain which would cause pleasure if you regarded their advantages.”
-Baltasar Gracián
“It is in dialogue with pain that many beautiful things acquire their value.”
-Alain de Botton
“We cannot learn without experiencing pain.”
-Unknown
“Pain doesn’t hurt as much when you stop avoiding it.”
-Mel Robbins
“I judge you unfortunate because you have never lived through misfortune. You have passed through life without an opponent – no one can ever know what you are capable of, not even you.”
-Seneca
“There will always be suffering. But we must not suffer over the suffering.”
-Alan Watts
“To remove the sting of insult, stop valuing compliments.”
-B. Biddles
“Depression is a strength in you because there’s nothing harder than overcoming demons within yourself.”
-Kristen Corley
“Forgive but do not forget, or you will be hurt again. Forgiving changes the perspectives. Forgetting loses the lesson.”
-Paulo Coelho
“Stop running from pain. Pain is here to teach you something.”
-Justin Kan
“Pain and death are part of life. To reject them is to reject life itself.”
-Havelock Ellis
“Every negative situation contains the possibility for something positive, an opportunity. It is how you look at it that matters.”
-Robert Greene
“Know that you never suffer from anyone but yourself.”
-Vernon Howard
“One of the best protections against disappointment is to have a lot going on.”
-Alain de Botton
“The purpose of pain is to move us into action. It is not to make us suffer.”
-Tony Robbins
“Love the heart that hurts you, but never hurt the heart that loves you.”
-Vipin Sharma
“The pain of trying and failing is intense and over rather quickly. The pain of failing to try, on the other hand, is less intense but never really goes away.”
-Shane Parrish
“The pain that you create now is always some form of nonacceptance, some form of unconscious resistance to what is.”
-Eckhart Tolle
“Sentimentality and emotionalism are the most destructive things.”
-Jiddu Krishnamurti
“Misfortune is virtue’s opportunity.”
-Seneca
“Just because it’s not what you were expecting doesn’t mean it’s not everything you need right now.”
-Paulo Coelho
“Another person will not hurt you without your cooperation. You are hurt the moment you believe yourself to be.”
-Epictetus
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
“When things break down, what has been ignored rushes in.”
-Jordan Peterson
“So other people hurt me? That’s their problem. Their character and actions are not mine. What is done to me is ordained by nature; what I do by my own.”
-Marcus Aurelius
“A fountain gets muddy with, but little stirring up, and does not get clear by our meddling with it but by our leaving it alone. The best remedy for disturbances is to let them run their course, for so they quiet down.”
-Baltasar Gracián
“Just because someone serves you a bad meal, does not mean you have to eat it.”
-George Raveling
“The river you’re in has strong waves and smooth waves too. Same water, but different energy. Use them both wisely.”
-Maxime Lagacé
“It’s not the load that breaks you down; it’s the way you carry it.”
-Lena Horne
“Be aware – deep down, you are really attached to your negative emotions. They are your ego.”
-Osho
“What if the worst thing that happened to you turns out to be the best thing that has ever happened to you?”
-Joe Dispenza
“After someone is hurt emotionally, the long-term danger is that they prioritize protecting themselves over loving again. If you protect yourself from the downside of the world at all costs, you block yourself from the upside of the world.”
-Bill Masur
“Do not feel lonely. The entire universe is inside you.”
-Misha Collins
“God allows us to experience the low points of life in order to teach us lessons that we could learn in no other way.”
-C.S. Lewis
“The purpose of life, as far as I can tell… is to find a mode of being that’s so meaningful that the fact that life is suffering is no longer relevant.”
-Jordan Peterson
“Ninety-nine percent of your problems are created by you because you take life seriously.”
-Osho
“I don’t know about you, but every important thing in my life I’ve ever learned was painful.”
-Jordan Peterson
“Suffering is a test. That’s all it is. Suffering is the true test of life.”
-David Goggins
“Whatever is happening in your life, you and only you are responsible for it. If you had not been clinging, the wheel would have moved.”
-Osho
“When pain, misery, or anger happen, it is time to look within you, not around you.”
-Sadhguru
“The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame.”
-Mark Manson
“If you evade suffering, you also evade the chance of joy. Pleasure you may get, or pleasures, but you will not be fulfilled. You will not know what it is to come home.”
-Ursula K. Le Guin
“I began to understand that suffering and disappointments and melancholy are there not to vex us or cheapen us or deprive us of our dignity but to mature and transfigure us.”
-Hermann Hesse
“If there was no suffering, man would not know his limits, would not know himself.”
-Leo Tolstoy
“Suffering is an indication of ignorance, but in seeking an escape from suffering, you are only nourishing ignorance.”
-Jiddu Krishnamurti
“We don’t meditate to see heaven, but to end suffering.”
-Ajahn Chah
“All suffering originates from craving, from attachment, from desire.”
-Edgar Allan Poe
“You cannot suffer the past or future because they do not exist. What you are suffering is your memory and your imagination.”
-Sadhguru
“If the mind is attentive and does not move away from suffering, you will see that out of total attention comes not only energy but also that suffering comes to an end.”
-Jiddu Krishnamurti
“When we suffer, notice that our suffering is often made of thoughts. As our inner commentary ceases, notice that the suffering stops, too.”
-Haemin Sunim
“It is perhaps when our lives are at their most problematic that we are likely to be most receptive to beautiful things.”
-Alain de Botton
“Don’t hold your feelings inside. The longer we let pain hide in our hearts, the more it turns to poison.”
-Chelsea Sedoti
“Meditation is the only answer to all the questions of man; it may be frustration; it may be depression; it may be sadness; it may be meaninglessness; it may be anguish. The problems may be many, but the answer is one; meditation is the answer.”
-Osho
“Setbacks are inevitable; misery is a choice.”
-Stephen R. Covey
“Choose not to be harmed— and you won’t feel harmed. Don’t feel harmed— and you haven’t been.”
-Marcus Aurelius
“If it hurts, it’s probably doing you good. If it’s pleasant, it’s most likely wrong.”
-John Graves
“Even situations that appear to be obstacles are actually opportunities— detours in the right direction.”
-Gabby Bernstein
“Try to learn to let what is unfair teach you.”
-David Foster Wallace
“When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you.”
-African Proverb
“Instead of treating events as wins or losses, ask, “Did I learn something I can apply in the future?” If not, you must treat it as a loss.”
-Naval Ravikant
“But then again, maybe bad things happen because it’s the only way we can keep remembering what good is supposed to look like.”
-Jodi Picoult
“If someone succeeds in provoking you, realize that your mind is complicit in the provocation.”
-Epictetus
“The lesson? To respond to the unexpected and hurtful behavior of others with something more than a wipe of the glasses, to see it as a chance to expand our understanding.”
-Alain de Botton
“You must practice seeing yourself with a little distance, cultivating the ability to get out of your own head. Detachment is a sort of natural ego antidote.”
-Ryan Holiday
“When you have been burned by fire once, you don’t leap into the flames again.”
-Jodi Picoult
Love Quotes About Lost Friendships, Loves, and Overall Heartache
“Spiteful words can hurt your feelings, but silence breaks your heart.”
-C.S. Lewis
“Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.”
-Augustine of Hippo
“Oh, love isn’t there to make us happy. I believe it exists to show us how much we can endure.”
-Hermann Hesse
“Love more, not less. Will you take a hit? Of course, you will. Do it anyway.”
-Bob Goff
“Love though said to be afflicted with blindness, is a vigilant watchman.”
-Charles Dickens
“A profound love between two people involves, after all, the power and chance of doing profound hurt.”
-Ursula K. Le Guin
“If you love deeply, you’re going to get hurt badly. But it’s still worth it.”
-C.S. Lewis
“Love is an incurable disease. In love, there is permanent suffering. Those who love and those who are happy are not the same.”
-Alain de Botton
“You’re allowed to leave someone you love if they’re treating you poorly, you’re allowed to put yourself first if you’re settling, and you’re allowed to walk away when you’ve tried over and over again, but nothing has changed.”
-Rania Naim
“With love, you should go ahead and take the risk of getting hurt because love is an amazing feeling.”
-Britney Spears
“You may be hurt if you love too much, but you will live in misery if you love too little.”
-Napoleon Hill
“It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people but care more about their opinion than our own.”
-Marcus Aurelius
“I have learned now that while those who speak about one’s miseries usually hurt, those who keep silence hurt more.”
-C.S. Lewis
“Everyone is responsible for their own happiness. Trying to take on the responsibility of another person’s happiness can hurt them in the long run and deprive them of miracles.”
-Gabby Bernstein
“Some people use their own hurt as an excuse for hurting others.”
-Roland Merullo
“Save your skin from the corrosive acids from the mouths of toxic people. Someone who just helped you to speak evil about another person can later help another person to speak evil about you.”
-Israelmore Ayivor
“Some people are in such utter darkness that they will burn you just to see a light. Try not to take it personally.”
-Kamand Kojouri
“It’s rare for a toxic person to change their behavior. More often, the only thing that varies is their target and the blame they place. Because some toxic people are difficult to identify, keep in mind that a victim mindset is sometimes a red flag. So, listen when someone talks about their life and circumstances. If the list of people they blame is long… it’s probably only a matter of time before you’re on that list.”
-Steve Maraboli
“Respect other people’s feelings. It might mean nothing to you, but it could mean everything to them.”
-Roy Bennett
“The best way to live a miserable life is to pay attention to what other people are saying about you.”
-Paulo Coelho
“Why should your life be destroyed because of the easy criticism of those who do not know you or care about you?”
-Haemin Sunim
“True love is many things and can survive the strongest and most painful of times. When love comes out the other side of a fire, it may be scarred forever, but this bruised love is somehow only greater for having survived the pain.”
-John Carter Cash
“That old saying, how you always hurt the one you love, well, it works both ways.”
-Chuck Palahniuk
“Being brokenhearted is like having broken ribs. On the outside, it looks like nothing’s wrong, but every breath hurts.”
-Greg Behrendt
“What do you do when the one person you want comfort from the most is the one who caused your pain? How can I want so desperately for him to wrap me up in his arms but also want so much for him to leave me alone.”
-Amanda Grace
“The worst feeling is not being lonely. It’s when someone makes you feel special, then suddenly leaves you, and you have to pretend you don’t mind at all.”
-Nishan Panwar
“Don’t forget, love isn’t supposed to cause you anxiety or stress!”
-Whitney Cummings
“People who wrong others for no good reason tend to keep at it until they finish the job.”
-Thucydides
“We often benefit from harm done to us by others, almost never from self-inflicted injuries.”
-Nassim Nicholas Taleb
“I’ve learned that no matter how good a friend someone is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while, and you must forgive them for that.”
-Robert Knapp
“The difference between friendship and love is how much you can hurt each other.”
-Ashleigh Brilliant
“Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them.”
-Leo Tolstoy
“Everyone has hurt feelings sometimes, and people do different things to feel better. Sometimes talking to a trusted friend is helpful, or we might share our feelings with a teacher or parent. It also helps when we make an extra effort to be sure we don’t hurt the feelings of others.”
-Molly Bang
“You don’t get to choose if you get hurt in this world. But you do have some say in who hurts you.”
-John Green
“I pay no attention whatever to anybody’s praise or blame. I simply follow my own feelings.”
-Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart
“Being hurt by someone you truly care about leaves a hole in your heart that only love can fill.”
-George Bernard Shaw
“Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.”
“When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That’s the message he is sending.”
-Thich Nhat Hanh
“So it’s true when all is said and done, grief is the price we pay for love.”
-E.A. Bucchianeri
“When I feel happiness or love, I feel those things intensely, and I feel pain intensely. It’s the price of feeling.”
-Matt Haig
“That’s the funny thing about old hurts— they just wait for the new heartache to come along and then show up, just as sharp and horrible as the first day you woke up with the world changed all around you.”
-Lilith Saintcrow
“A man is not hurt so much by what happens, as by his opinion of what happens.”
-Michel de Montaigne
“Injuries done to us by others tend to be acute; the self-inflicted ones tend to be chronic.”
-Nassim Nicholas Taleb
“If someone really wants to hurt you, they’ll find a way whatever. I don’t want to live my life worrying about it.”
-George Michael
“There will be a time when you are forced to follow your heart away from someone you love.”
-Ashly Lorenzana
“The saddest thing about love is that not only that it cannot last forever, but that heartbreak is soon forgotten.”
-William Faulkner
“Why did I always end up loving the person who hurt me the most? Why was love so cruel?”
-J.C. Reed
“Love those who hurt you the most because they are probably the ones closest to you. They, too, are on a path, and just like you, they are learning to walk before they can fly. Imagine if everybody you hurt in life turned their backs on you? You would be playing a hell of a lot of solitaires. Love them no matter what.”
-Nikki Sixx
“The surest way to hurt yourself is to give up on love, just because it didn’t work out the first time.”
-Amanda Howells
“I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.”
“Stop waiting for them to fix you. They are the thing that broke you.”
-Mairéad McCarron
“Each breakup brings you closer to the person who is right for you.”
-Thibaut
“The best revenge is living well without you.”
-Joyce Carol Oates
“Love more, not less. Will you take a hit? Of course, you will. Do it anyway.”
-Bob Goff
“Not everyone you lose is a loss.”
-Dan Mace
“Those who really love you don’t mean to hurt you, and if they do, you can’t see it in their eyes, but it hurts them too.”
-Holly Black
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.”
Sad Quotes About Anger, Revenge, and the Power of Forgiveness
“Strength of character means the ability to overcome resentment against others, to hide hurt feelings, and to forgive quickly.”
-Lawrence G. Lovasik
“Forgiveness leads to a shift in perception. It transforms the hurt into healing.”
-Iyanla Vanzant
“It’s one of the toughest things in the world when somebody has hurt you, and you can find within yourself the strength to begin the whole process of forgiveness. And it turns out to be the gift to you, not so much the gift to the person you’re forgiving.”
-Dr. William Orr
“Forgiveness is making a conscious decision to live in the present, even if the past still hurts.”
-Unknown
“You will know that forgiveness has begun when you recall those who hurt you and feel the power to wish them well.”
-Lewis B. Smedes
“Anger is a blunt tool. It won’t hurt your enemies. However, It will definitely hurt you.”
-Chanakya
“One should never do wrong in return, nor mistreat any man, no matter how one has been mistreated by him.”
-Socrates
“I wish I could be hurt or angry. I would prefer anything other than this complete disappointment.”
-Nicole Hartley
“As long as we carry a grudge against someone, that person goes on haunting us in a way – we give them power over us. We are not free.”
-Osho
“Nothing on earth consumes a man more quickly than the passion of resentment.”
“Don’t drift into self-pity because it doesn’t solve any problems. Generally speaking, envy, resentment, revenge, and self-pity are disastrous modes of thought.”
-Charlie Munger
“Hanging onto resentment is letting someone you despise live rent-free in your head.”
-Ann Landers
“Wrongs are often forgiven, but contempt never is. Our pride remembers it forever.”
-Lord Chesterfield
“Vengeance wastes a lot of time and exposes you to many more injuries than the first that sparked it. Anger always outlasts hurt.”
-Seneca
“Forgive those who have hurt you.”
-Les Brown
“Don’t hold to anger, hurt, or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.”
-Leo Buscaglia
“A stiff apology is a second insult. The injured party does not want to be compensated because he has been wronged; he wants to be healed because he has been hurt.”
-Gilbert K. Chesterton
Inspirational Quotes that Encourage Growth and Healing
“We are not our stories, our dramas, or our wrongdoings. We are love.”
-Gabby Bernstein
“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this, too, was a gift.”
-Mary Oliver
“Go to the place inside that hurts. The part that’s lonely or sad. Your broken heart. Your bruised ego. The part of you that worries it will always be this way. Go there now and silently repeat: May you be happy. May you be safe. May you be filled with love. You’re not alone.”
-Jason Garner
“The pain of yesterday is the strength of today.”
-Paulo Coelho
“I can bear any pain as long as it has meaning.”
-Haruki Murakami
“If you feel pain, be attentive to it; don’t do anything. Attention is the great sword; it cuts everything. You simply pay attention to the pain.”
-Osho
“We are not in control of pain. No matter how hard we try. Not of the cause or the duration – only the response.”
-Ryan Holiday
“There is no normal life that is free of pain. It’s the very wrestling with our problems that can be the impetus for our growth.”
-Fred Rogers
“Someday, we’ll forget the hurt, the reason we cried and who caused us pain. And we’ll finally realize that the secret of being free is not revenge, but letting things unfold in their own way and own time.”
-Paulo Coelho
“Sometimes we have to truly wallow in our misery so we can learn how to bask in our happiness. Sometimes we have to lose all hope before we find unwavering faith.”
-Rania Naim
“The damage was permanent; there would always be scars. But even the angriest scars faded over time until it was difficult to see them written on the skin at all, and the only thing that remained was the memory of how painful it had been.”
-Jodi Picoult
“The trick to healing from suffering, I think, is deciding that the pain was worth it.”
-Aella
“Conquer pain by surrendering to the experience of it.”
-Justin Kan
“To smile to our pain is the wisest, the most intelligent, the most beautiful thing we can do. There is no better way.”
-Thich Nhat Hanh
“If you see somebody that’s hurting, don’t look away. And if you are hurting, even though it might be hard, try to find that bravery within yourself to dive deep and go tell somebody.”
-Lady Gaga
“One of the most courageous decisions you’ll ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and soul.”
-Unknown
“The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it.”
-Nicholas Sparks
“Sometimes, you can be touched by God but not healed. Often when this happens, he is using your pain for a greater purpose.”
-Shannon L. Alder
“Some changes look negative on the surface, but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.”
-Eckhart Tolle
“Use setbacks in life as an opportunity to become a bigger and better person. Don’t wallow.”
-Shane Parrish
“One benefit of a life crisis is increased self-awareness.”
-David Hawkins
“Emotional pain cannot kill you, but running from it can. Allow. Embrace. Let yourself feel. Let yourself heal.”
-Vironika Tugaleva
“Be grateful in spite of your suffering.”
-Jordan Peterson
“Accept suffering and achieve atonement through it – that is what you must do.”
-Fyodor Dostoyevsky
“There is hope, and when I feel like there isn’t hope, my brain is lying to me.”
-John Green
“Handling our suffering is an art. If we know how to suffer, we suffer much less, and we’re no longer afraid of being overwhelmed by the suffering inside.”
-Thich Nhat Hanh
“In the Now, in the absence of time, all your problems dissolve. Suffering needs time; it cannot survive in the Now.”
-Eckhart Tolle
“Suffering is part of our training program for becoming wise.”
-Ram Dass
“Embrace your suffering tenderly.”
-Thich Nhat Hanh
“Learn to accept discomfort and uncertainty. It will eliminate most of your imagined suffering.”
-Neil Strauss
“Tears are handy for washing away troubling and sad feelings. But when you grow up, you’ll learn that there are things so sad, they can never be washed away by tears. That there are painful memories that should never be washed away. So people who are truly strong laugh when they want to cry. They endure all of the pain and sorrow while laughing with everybody else.”
-Hideaki Sorachi
“The worst loss you’ve ever experienced is the greatest gift you can have.”
-Byron Katie
“The moment you accept what troubles you’ve been given, the door will open.”
–Rumi
“It does not matter what you bear, but how you bear it.”
-Seneca
“To heal a wound, you must stop scratching it.”
-Paulo Coelho
“Never to suffer would never to have been blessed.”
-Edgar Allan Poe
“Despair can never be dissolved through escape, but by observing it.”
-Jiddu Krishnamurti
“You aren’t really being rejected – you’re being redirected.”
-Mel Robbins
“And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in.”
-Haruki Murakami
“If you ignore a deep wound, it gets infected. Same is true of psychological wounds. You have to treat a wound to heal it.”
-Neil Strauss
“Step out of the history that is holding you back. Step into the new story you are willing to create.”
-Oprah Winfrey
“Sometimes, your heart needs more time to accept something that your mind already knows.”
-Paulo Coelho
“Only in ending is there a new beginning.”
-Jiddu Krishnamurti
“What hurts you, blesses you. Darkness is your candle.”
-Rumi
“Whatever rejection you’re facing right now is a gift.”
-Mel Robbins
“No one and nothing can free you but your own understanding.”
-Ajahn Chah
“Don’t allow your wounds to turn you into a person you are not.”
-Paulo Coelho
“I’ve survived a lot of things, and I’ll probably survive this.”
-J. D. Salinger
“My heart will still ache sometimes. Maybe more often than not. I think it’s possible to be healed without feeling whole.”
-Monica Hesse
“Because of your difficult experience, you will become stronger, wiser, and more compassionate toward those having a hard time.”
-Haemin Sunim
“Being rejected from something good just means you were being pointed toward something better.”
-Unknown
“For a tree to become tall, it must grow tough roots among the rocks.”
“The measure of who we are is how we react to something that does not go our way.”
-Gregg Popovich
“Learn from your past, but don’t be controlled by it.”
-Mel Robbins
“If you are going to heal in a magnificent way, you have to feel magnificent.”
-Joe Dispenza
“Gradually, the healing took place, seeming as it always does that it wasn’t taking place.”
-Ursula K. Le Guin
“It is precisely in times of immunity from care that the soul should toughen itself beforehand for occasions of greater stress, and it is while fortune is kind that it should fortify itself against her violence.”
-Seneca
“A man is the sum of his misfortunes. One day you’d think misfortune would get tired, but then time is your misfortune.”
-William Faulkner
“Recognize reality even when you don’t like it— especially when you don’t like it.”
-Charlie Munger
“Sometimes it is best to lie low, to do nothing but let the winter pass.”
-Robert Greene
“Suffering has been stronger than all other teaching and has taught me to understand what your heart used to be. I have been bent and broken, but— I hope— into a better shape.”
-Charles Dickens
“A clear mind heals everything that needs to be healed.”
-Byron Katie
“We cannot simply sit and stare at our wounds forever. We must stand up and move on to the next action.”
-Haruki Murakami
“Prioritize healing over history.”
-Ebonee Davis
“To solve all problems, be here, in reality, now. Recognize that they exist only in a past or a future.”
-Byron Katie
“If you feel lost, disappointed, hesitant, or weak, return to yourself, to who you are, here and now and when you get there, you will discover yourself, like a lotus flower in full bloom, even in a muddy pond, beautiful and strong.”
-Masaru Emoto
“Look back at the mirror and try loving the person in it. Do that thing you’ve been wanting to do but have been shying away from. Believe in your vision.”
-B. Elae
“What distresses us is less the circumstances we find ourselves in and more the energy we expend in resisting them.”
-Haemin Sunim
“The turning point in the process of growing up is when you discover the core of strength within you that survives all hurt.”
-Max Lerner
“Sometimes, being hurt too many times doesn’t make you stronger; it destroys who you were, who you wanted to be, and makes who you are today.”
-Rafael Prado
“Live and allow others to live; hurt no one; life is dear to all living beings.”
-Mahavira
“Pain is temporary. The pain you feel today is only to get the strength to face tomorrow.”
-Sivaprakash Sidhu
“Never regret yesterday. Life is in you today, and you make your tomorrow.”
-L. Ron Hubbard
“We have to do with the past only as we can make it useful to the present and the future.”
-Frederick Douglass
“Pain is only bearable if we know it will end, not if we deny it exists.”
-Victor Frankl
“From hurt comes pain, from pain, comes change. If it hurts enough, change will happen.”
-Tripp Evans
Mental Health Resources for Those Who Need Them
Find a Therapist in Your Area
Call Centers
- Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration’s National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
- Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 (TALK)
- Suicide Prevention Lifeline for Hearing Impaired: 1-800-799-4889
- The Samaritans: (877) 870-4673 (HOPE)
- Trevor Project Lifeline – Hotline for LGBT youth, (866) 488-7386
- Child Help USA National Hotline – For youth who are suffering from child abuse, 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
- Boys Town National Hotline – Serving all at-risk teens and children, (800) 448-3000
- National Teen Dating Violence Hotline – Concerns about dating relationships, 1-866-331-9474 (or text “loveis” to 22522)
Text Hotlines
- Crisis Text Line (Or, on your smartphone, text HOME to 741741)
- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
- IMAlive
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