You forget you’re a strong person. A fighter. A warrior. You’ve been through a lot in this life and you should be proud of yourself for making it this far. Maybe you aren’t exactly where you want to be yet, but it’s pretty damn impressive how far you’ve come.
You forget you aren’t going to die tomorrow. You don’t have to get everything done right this second. You don’t have to rush to finish all of the different projects that are on your plate. You can pace yourself. You can breathe. You can relax a little.
You forget your work isn’t everything. It takes up most of your week, but it shouldn’t take up most of your thoughts. There are other important things in this world for you to focus on. Don’t kill yourself over your career.
You forget how many people care about you. You’re always the one running around, completing errands and helping out friends, but your feelings aren’t one-sided. These people love you as much as you love them. They appreciate you — even if they don’t say it enough.
You forget you aren’t supposed to be perfect. It’s okay to admit it when everything is falling apart. You don’t have to pretend to have your shit together. No one is going to blame you for being a bit of a mess. If anything, it will make you more relatable.
You forget life isn’t a competition against others — or against yourself. It’s great that you want to better yourself, but you shouldn’t turn everything into a game. It’s okay if you got more done yesterday than today. It’s okay if you were more productive last month than this month. It’s okay.
You forget kindness isn’t always the answer. Sometimes you have to be loud about what you want. Sometimes you have to be forceful to get someone to back off. Sometimes you have to put your politeness aside and stand your ground.
You forget no one likes a liar. You might think you’re doing your loved ones a favor by protecting them from all your drama, but really, they want to be there for you. They want to listen. They want to know what’s going on in your world.
You forget you’re in control of your own destiny. If someone is treating you like shit, you can leave. If work isn’t making you fulfilled, you can quit. You have agency over your own life. You’re the one who gets to make the choices.
You forget torturing yourself isn’t going to earn you any brownie points. It isn’t going to make anyone respect you more. It’s only going to make you more miserable, so you might as well do what makes you happy. You might as well choose the path that makes you the most excited.
You forget your present situation isn’t going to last forever. The way you’re feeling right now is only temporary. It isn’t going to continue until next year and the year after that. Things are going to get better.
You forget no one owes you anything. No one has to be nice to you, even if you’re nice to them. You have to act with kindness because it makes you happy, because it feels like the right choice for you, not because you think it’s going to get you something.