This Is How Each Zodiac Sign Acts When They Love You, But Don’t Actually Want To Be With You


(March 21st to April 19th)

They act like nothing ever happened.

Aries express their inner conflicts pretty transparently. One day, they will be up talking to you until 3 a.m., confessing how smitten and intrigued they are by you, and then the next they will act as though nothing ever happened, like you are both just friends. It will be super confusing, but the Aries won’t know how to manage their feelings in a way that doesn’t come across as totally obvious. You’ll know that they care about you… and you’ll know that there’s something within them that feels the relationship isn’t quite right.


(April 20th to May 21st)

They will try to play up the ‘friends with benefits’ game.

Tauruses are notoriously stubborn, most especially when it comes to matters of the heart. They are typically hellbent on going after whatever it is they want – and become equally dismayed when they can’t figure out what that is. If they find themselves caught in the middle, they will try to actually get the best of both worlds. Instead of making a huge relationship commitment, they will just try to get you to indulge them enough that you’re not quite friends, and not quite a couple. Don’t play into the game, it’s one you aren’t going to win easily.


(May 22nd to June 21st)

They share TMI about their feelings.

Geminis probably handle inner turmoil the least efficiently out of all the zodiac signs, and when they feel confused or conflicted about something, they will typically target all of that energy right at the person/thing that they feel most perplexed by. This will lead the Gemini to long, rambling rants about how much they love you and how they “just don’t know where they’re at” right now. Just know that when a Gemini is truly in love, it will be met with certainty and action and commitment. Anything else is intrigue or lust that they can’t quite figure out.


(June 22nd to July 22nd)

They become aggressive or standoffish.

It is really against a Cancer’s nature to do anything that would deprive them of the relationship they desire. However, they are more driven by what they want in a long-term relationship than they are their random sexual impulses. That doesn’t mean it’s not painful for them, though. A Cancer who has feelings towards someone, but can’t really express them because the relationship seems like a bad match, will end up telling off-color jokes, becoming aggressive and then maybe even standoffish. Basically, they act totally out of their nature to get you to reject them first.


(July 23rd to August 22nd)

They just leave.

Leos will only stick around for as long as it takes to figure out whether or not they really want to be in a relationship. If they do, they commit. If they don’t, they walk. Anything else is the limbo you’re stuck in while they figure out what it is would be best for them. It should also be noted that if the Leo thinks it is really time for them to just date around and carry on with random hookups, they will commit to it completely. When a Leo tells you what they are or aren’t interested in committing to, believe them the first time.


(August 23rd to September 22nd)

They try to “fix” you.

If a Virgo feels like they love you but that you aren’t quite “relationship material,” their instinct isn’t to assume that you aren’t compatible, rather, that there is something “wrong” with you that they can help you “fix,” and once you have “fixed” it, you will be a perfect match for one another and can live happily ever after. If a Virgo won’t commit to you, but seems overly invested in making sure you’re bettering yourself, they’re probably just trying to see whether or not you have the potential to be what they need.


(September 23rd to October 22nd)

They close themselves off.

Libras, notorious for being social and open-hearted, take any kind of relationship confusion the worst of anyone. They are such relationship-oriented people that any kind of interpersonal discord really hurts them. This is why their actions make sense: Libras who feel like they care about someone, but don’t actually want to be with them, will repeatedly ghost, be oddly secretive about certain parts of their lives, and will seem super private. This isn’t how they really are, it’s how they are working to shield themselves from you getting too close and potentially hurting them even more.


(October 23rd to November 22nd)

They act like you’re in a relationship… without being in a relationship.

When a Scorpio feels something strongly, they can rarely resist their instincts to go after what they want and care about. Their inner lives are so complex and vivid that just spending time with you and acting as though you are in a relationship will be overwhelming enough… add on top of that the pressure to make it official and close themselves off to other options, and it might just be too much. A Scorpio in love (but not commitment) will act as they would if you were really together. Time will tell whether or not they truly feel it enough to make it legit.


(November 23rd to December 21st)

They friend zone you hard.

Sags are not only the most blunt of the zodiac signs, but they are also the most generally chill, especially when it comes to dating and relationships. If a Sagittarius knows that they really care about you, they will make every effort to keep you close in their lives, but if they don’t think they actually want to be in a relationship… they just… won’t. Enter the whole “friend zone” dilemma. They won’t want to cut you out of their lives, but they’ll keep you at an arm’s length (and with a frustratingly platonic label).


(December 22nd to January 20th)

They will get over their BS and commit.

Capricorns who feel strongly about something (or anything) tend to go in on it 100%. Even if they previously thought that they weren’t ready to make a commitment or be in a relationship, if they find the right person, they will generally override their hesitations and do what’s right.


(January 21st to February 18th)

They will shower you with random outbursts of affection.

Aquarians who care about you deeply, but know that you aren’t going to be in a relationship will keep their distance but randomly shower you with compliments and praise. Basically, they turn into very low-key fangirls of you, and though you only hear from them once in a while, their affections will be clear and well-expressed.


(February 19th to March 20th)

They will ignore you but make emo art about you secretly.

You probably won’t hear from a Pisces who is in love with you, but doesn’t want to be with you… like, ever. They’ll be weirdly standoffish until you discover that they were using their heartache as fuel for their latest song or weird Tumblr post. Basically, you are their muse and you will only ever know it if you are able to stumble upon their work. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

January Nelson is a writer, editor, and dreamer. She writes about astrology, games, love, relationships, and entertainment. January graduated with an English and Literature degree from Columbia University.

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