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What Each Zodiac Sign Does When They’re Secretly Unhappy In A Relationship


(March 21st to April 19th)

They begin to close you off, even though they won’t be confrontational until it’s necessary. When an Aries is in love, they want to share every tiny, stupid detail of their lives with you, and they want to know everything that’s happening in your mind. Aries are super straightforward with their intentions. If you have to wonder whether or not something’s wrong, something’s wrong.


(April 20th to May 21st)

They become overly-invested in making their lives appear as “happy” as possible. The excess to which they’re trying to perfect their Instagram feeds or re-do their living spaces is proportional to how unhappy they really are deep down. Tauruses are aesthetic, visual, social people, so a lot of their happiness comes from how things appear, and how they imagine other people perceive them. They will rely on this more and more when they aren’t being fulfilled in some other way.


(May 22nd to June 21st)

They will be an actual, flailing mess, except it will be over absolutely everything *but* your deteriorating relationship. They’ll be struggling at work, crying for no reason, freaking out at friends, all because they don’t know how to handle the fact that they really aren’t happy. A Gemini will not be subtle about being unhappy, but they will be indecisive. They’ll try to pin their discontent on everything else but love, until they have no choice but to face reality.


(June 22nd to July 22nd)

They become petty. They talk about how unhappy they are to their friends, make passive aggressive comments here and there, and mostly, they do everything they can to release their pent up unhappiness without having to actually address or fix the reason *why.* Cancers are lovers at heart, so when their sweetness begins to turn sour, you know something is up.


(July 23rd to August 22nd)

They become aggressive and then dismissive. Leos who are secretly unhappy are pretty brutal, because their internal confidence comes from their sense of self, and when something in their personal lives isn’t aligned with their deepest truth, they become very insecure, lash out, and eventually just start trying to move on.


(August 23rd to September 22nd)

They try to throw themselves into anything that will distract them. Virgos are passionate by nature, but they’re also easily paranoid. So though on the surface they like to come off as “chill,” if they’re deeply immersing themselves in some part of their lives beyond normal, take it as a cue that something’s off in another part of their life.


(September 23rd to October 22nd)

They become obsessed with work. Libras are the lovers of the zodiac, but they’re also workaholics. Remember that they are the sign ruled by scales, and so when a Libra unbalances their lives by throwing themselves into one thing, it’s because they have to counter the discomfort they feel in another.


(October 23rd to November 22nd)

They either refuse to commit, or start freaking out about things that are completely unrelated to the problem. Scorpios are the most intense sign of the zodiac, and when they’re secretly unhappy in a relationship, they honestly won’t be able to carry on with it for long. Their emotions will rip through them too quickly.


(November 23rd to December 21st)

They become passive aggressive. They have outbursts that seem to come out of nowhere, or inappropriately channeled fits of anger. On the surface they maintain their light, humorous, adventurous nature, but they can only bite their tongues for so long. Watch for loaded jokes or offhand comments.


(December 22nd to January 20th)

They try to control *everything.* They try to identify the problems, and work on them even if in reality, the relationship probably isn’t salvageable. They overly identify with the relationship (the relationship becomes their life). Capricorns don’t like not knowing where they stand, and they *really* don’t like feeling ungrounded. If they’re not really happy, they’ll start buckling down more than normal to “fix” it.


(January 21st to February 18th)

They come up with big, grandiose dreams and goals and actually pursue them. They move to other countries, begin businesses or start other impressive ventures. Aquariuses are driven, work-oriented people, but when they’re unhappy in their relationships, that tends to go into overdrive. A key indicator that they’re secretly unhappy is that they won’t give up any of their time for you, or they say they just have to “focus on their career” even if by all other standards, they seem completely in love (they’re actually not).


(February 19th to March 20th)

They just want to be “free.” They want to experience everything life has to offer, and all of a sudden have an interest in just roaming the world and “seeing what’s out there.” They may claim that they love you, but if their imaginations begin to wander past building a life with you, they’re not completely happy deep down. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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